And it’s not just women. Men feel obliged to look a certain way too. I totally blame celebrity culture and mainstream media.
It’s better to be healthy than deprive yourselves of a little bit of you what you fancy for the sake of the perception of others. SO WRONG !! If you feel you need to look like a stick insect. Get some new friends and dump your partner.
Take some advice from an ‘old bird’ … if the people around you make you feel you’re not up to scratch, you’re not on the right path. Love is blind. Walk TALL !!
Thank you Miranda Marieh who has just advised me, the artist is a guy named David London from Boston Massachusetts . Refreshing to see a male perspective that understands the pain of some of these women and girls.
Tiffany Belle Harper.
( Miranda Marieh is the first photo above with the guitar. Fabulous artist and friend of mine.)
tiffanybelleharper.com 
A very wry and spot on encapsulation of one aspect of the messy image trade.
Fight on ladies (excuse me I’m nearly 65; it’s a term of honour in my own little world)
Good video, worthwhile efforts
Never excuse yourself. I do feel sad about what media is doing to these beautiful people. There’s too many suicides and self harming. It really gets me. X
Agreed!
So many young people tormented by all this junk and consequent peer pressure.
A few years back Radio 4 ran a short series by a visiting American journalist who referred to a worrying trend in small town USA. Teenage lads involved in serious steroid abuse while trying to attain ‘the buff’; that mythical rippling muscular body.
Steroids can cause sexual disfunction in men and also mood swings leading to violence particularly with alcohol. Agreed. We as adults have a responsibility to teach them that body image is not as important as heart and soul. I despair at times.Recently discovered (however) highest rate of suicide is actually in Japan? Found that surprising.
Some women have to wear burkas which make them look less human. that way the men have less in common with them. Easier to throw acid on something you fear and loath. In Christian societies they push women to become invisible. Eat less and you won’t be seen and be to weak to complain. It’s pretty sickening. I have always refused to read the womens mags because I always felt like they were almost cult like.
So true and I hate the term ‘arm candy’. A lot of guys are more concerned about first impressions than long lasting relationships. Good to hear from you !!
sent you some emails!
yay xx