Author: Tiffany Belle Harper

Less is More ... we learn we know nothing. Lifestyle blog. Business, love, family, crafts.

Empowerment and Exploitation: A Complex Discussion

I’ve been busy in my own little world, but I know it’s time to check in with my blog—for me, for my memories, and for the record of where I stand.

There’s a lot going on in the world, and legacy media often decide which stories we should focus on. But many of us are drawn instead to voices we trust—those who speak with truth and passion. Agreement isn’t the point; accuracy is. Without it, our heads fill with rubbish.

Recent controversies, like the BBC’s handling of footage involving Donald Trump, show how damaging technology can be in the wrong hands. Editing, AI, and selective framing can distort reality, and when trusted brands are involved, the impact is even deeper. Accountability has to start somewhere. Media outlets and influencers with large followings carry responsibility: leadership should mean honesty, not manipulation.

It isn’t only politicians who are vulnerable. There have been cases where footage of deceased people appears in legal battles, or where historical emails and digital footprints are dragged into the light. These can be byproducts of AI misuse and smear campaigns—reminders of how fragile truth becomes when technology is weaponised.

And with the Epstein files, one part disgusts me deeply: if Prince Andrew did recruit men to bully his victim online and send worrying messages, then who are these men? Who took money to terrify a woman, and will they ever be held to account? It is a known fact that men are recruited to bully women without any moral conscience, and that behaviour must be named and condemned.

At the same time, we must acknowledge that not everyone who attended Epstein’s parties was complicit. Some were manipulated, or simply present without knowing the darker reality. Except those who knowingly enabled or profited from the exploitation—whether Epstein, Ghislaine Maxwell, or men recruited to bully victims—must be held to account. To terrify women for money shows a lack of moral conscience that cannot be excused.

Another danger lies in spyware. Modern tools allow men to invade women’s homes and workplaces digitally, creating pretend relationships to the point of believing they are real. This is something we should be focusing on. How many fathers, husbands, and friends of women are unaware their loved ones have had their spaces invaded by cowards hiding behind keyboards?

Anyway back to the BBC, simply suing a broadcaster may not be enough or the right option at all. Imagine instead the BBC being urged to craft a prime-time program, promoted widely, that educates the public on how editing and digital tools can bend the truth. People deserve to know how easily bias and radicalisation can slip through their screens.

When I’m out in the community, I notice how younger men in particular look up to Donald Trump. Us Northerners tend to respect people who “say it as it is.” Whether you agree or not, dismissing that perspective without reflection risks misunderstanding. I’m entitled to my opinions, just as you are to yours.

On wider issues, I believe women deserve respect for their choices. Sex work has always existed, and while exploitation must be condemned and survivors protected, not every woman is forced into it. To assume weakness offends me. For clarity: I am not a sex worker, but I admire any woman who stands in her power and makes her own decisions. Empowerment looks different for everyone—whether it’s choosing a profession, or even posing nude with confidence. Each to their own. Life is too short to chase misery or revenge.

The internet, sadly, has become a playground for cowards—fakehood, revenge, and malice thrive there. I’ve felt it myself. That’s why I keep my focus on my own projects and growth, rather than poking into others’ business. Malicious intent is something I’ll never understand.

And back to Trump: whether you like him or not, he’s endured burdens most of us can’t imagine. He isn’t part of secret cults or handshakes; he identifies as Christian. Each to their own. Don’t shoot the messenger—read my “About Me” page if you want to know who I am. And if you don’t like me—whether you’re a relative, former neighbour, influencer, comedian, or bookworm—then simply go away. The interest will never be mutual.

Most importantly, remember this: most people are good and lovely. We should not let the cowardice and weakness in others destroy our right to enjoy our individual journeys.

I do feel enormously disappointed about the BBC, who do have a reputation for bias and fake news. Though I hope this can be resolved amicably, as the BBC also boast some great travel, geographical and baking shows, for example. And I have often felt unable to sleep before watching a few documentaries of such content, that broaden my horizons.

Tiffy Belle ❤️

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Catching Up on GB News: A Heartwarming Tribute to them

Was up late last night. Catching up with the characters on GB News, after a break from the mEDia world, to clear my head. MIDST missing them, i wanted to see Bev and Ben were all good across the pond 🇺🇸

Then! GB News showed this video by John Lewis. It had such a strong resonance and completely devastated my heart. Yet, it did so in a positive way. Bev got all emotional. Patrick talked about George and Emily. Then suddenly I became a statue of total emotion. Where I couldn’t move for a while.

Every boy needs a decent daddy.

Every decent daddy needs a hug.

And everything is within music when words alone aren’t enough 🌎

And by the way, I thought the interior design within the advert, was absolutely impeccable etc. The art and knick knacks. All just gorgeous.

Tiffy Belle ❤️

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Facing It Together Poster Launch: Abuse, Technology, and the Power of Witness

When autumn arrives, I close down. The house still welcomes guests who’ve booked in advance, but beyond that, it’s a season for nurturing. I spend time with the pets—little fluffs with their own stories—and the pace softens. It becomes peaceful. A time to reflect, to notice the good that still surrounds me.

There’s been a stream of unwanted energy for so many women, targeted by the cowardice of abuse and bullying, by both direct and indirect portals. Modern tech can even make the toilet feel like a public square. As well as being in damaging relationships, women are also being abused by men they’ve never met—through screens, sabotage, stalking, and digital intrusion. It’s a quiet epidemic, often dismissed, often unseen.

Anyway, I’ve been leaning into a new hobby: gathering bits from those who need the money, and passing them on—hopefully—to those who have more. A kind of redistribution, with charm.

Today went well. I managed to watch TV, which has been a nuance for me and some of the guests, given the Smart devices were once again compromised. Long story. But I was glad to catch Loose Women’s new poster campaign: Facing It Together. It’s a call to support women facing abuse, stalking, and/or fear. A reminder that these experiences are real, and often hidden.

You might know someone nearby who’s withdrawn. You might sense a violent relationship behind closed doors. You might be the target of technological sabotage or subtle baiting online. Whatever it is—whether it’s happening to you or someone you love—you’re not alone. You can call into the show, or simply watch, and feel held in the conversation.

You can visit the official campaign page for Facing It Together here on ITV’s Loose Women site. It offers resources, guidance, and ways to get involved or seek support.

Here’s a bit more detail to help you or anyone you’re holding space for:

🛡 Facing It Together – Campaign Overview

  • Launched by Loose Women, this campaign raises awareness around domestic abuse, stalking, and fear-based control.
  • It encourages friends, family, and community members to spot the signs and support survivors.
  • The motto: “Whether you are a survivor or a friend, we are facing it together.”

🛡 Facing It Together – Campaign Overview

Launched by Loose Women, Facing It Together is a national awareness campaign supporting women who are:

  • Experiencing domestic abuse
  • Being stalked or harassed
  • Living in fear due to technological sabotage or coercive control

The campaign encourages people to:

  • Spot the signs in friends, neighbours, or loved ones who may have withdrawn
  • Reach out, listen, and offer support
  • Call into the show or watch to feel included and informed

The message is simple: Whether you are a survivor or a friend, we are facing it together.

With love and clarity, Tiffy Belle 💕

by Tiffany Belle Harper

How to Cope with Emotional Terrorism plus Honey Traps and Digital Trespass: Naming the Invisible Abuse

There is no word strong enough to describe the violation of being terrorised simply for choosing distance.

When a person does not want someone in their life—whether out of self-preservation, clarity, or sovereignty—that boundary should be sacred. But for some, it becomes a challenge. A dare. A trigger for cruelty.

This isn’t about their heartbreak. It’s about your control.

Some individuals, often shielded by privilege or unprocessed emotional immaturity, believe they can force their way into someone’s life. They weaponise access, proximity, and social camouflage. They use charm, money, or manipulation to override consent. And when that doesn’t work, they orchestrate from the shadows—using others to do their dirty work.

They create chaos through triangulation, gossip, and manipulation. They keep the target guessing, destabilised, unsafe. It’s not just abuse. It’s theatre. And they are the coward behind the curtain.

This kind of abuse is hard to name. It’s layered. It’s silent. It’s devastating. And it often goes undetected. Because the victim is strong. Because they don’t fit the stereotype of someone “in danger.” Because they’re articulate, resilient, and trying to carry on. But strength doesn’t mean immunity. In fact, it often makes them a target. The abuser resents their autonomy, their refusal to bend, their clarity. So they punish it. And the systems meant to protect? They often fail. But this can change if those affected have the support and justice they deserve.

I believe Police reports may not capture the nuance. Restraining orders may require proof of escalation. Friends may say “just ignore them.” But ignoring doesn’t stop the erosion. What’s needed is trained professionals—people who understand the patterns, the psychology, the silent devastation. People who can intervene before the damage becomes irreversible. Who can say, “I see what’s happening. You’re not overreacting. You’re not alone.

This happens to women.

This happens to men.

This happens to anyone who dares to say no to someone who refuses to grow. Because some people never grow up. Not because they weren’t given time, but because they refused experience. They floundered through life avoiding responsibility, dodging discomfort, and curating a glossy façade. They never learned through hardship—never held a crying child through the night, never stood in a welfare queue, never weathered the storm of turbulent relationships in favour of denial and stability. They skipped the curriculum of learning about empathy. And now, in older age, they are bitter. Resentful. Vindictive.

They behave like malicious children in adult bodies, using money and material gain as shields to protect a hollow core. Their lack of life knowledge has curdled into frustration. And instead of facing that truth, they lash out—thriving on causing pain, misery, and confusion.

It’s a worthless existence, contrary to how it may appear. And they are often hungry for attention. Any attention. Even negative. So even a blog post like this must be crafted with care. Because naming them—even obliquely—can feed their warped need to feel significant. That’s why this post is not for them. It’s for the ones they target. The ones who feel unseen, unheard, and unsafe. The ones who are strong, but tired. Clear, but punished. Sovereign, but stalked.

Some victims have never met their abuser. The intrusion began online—through social media, through digital proximity, through the illusion of connection. And it never stopped. Not through direct contact, but through proxies. Through setups. Through the slow, corrosive trespass of someone who refuses to let go.

Others are honey-trapped—lured into false intimacy, then punished for trying to leave. Manipulated, surveilled, emotionally blackmailed. It’s not just romantic betrayal. It’s strategic entrapment. And it’s happening to men, too. Quietly. Invisibly. Devastatingly.

If you’re living in the “not knowing what’s next,” if you’re being punished for choosing peace, if you’re being stalked by someone’s emotional baggage—know this:

You are not imagining it.
You are not too sensitive.
You are not wrong for asking for help.

You are protecting your life.
And that is sacred.

Tiffy Belle 💕

by Tiffany Belle Harper