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Panorama Special ‘My Online Stalker’ on Catch-Up and a mini rant. Though life’s sweet.

My lovely mum got in touch to let me know, there’s a special on Panorama where a very brave victim of ‘online stalking’ has opened up about the experience.

I get sick of mentioning it, but when it’s tainting your life, it’s impossible to forget. Although my case is more complexed, since I had my Smart devices hacked and a cryptic resume on the sick bloke’s social pages of my life and movements. Dead birds around my doors. My bank card hacked. My solar lights cut in my garden last year. A fuse removed from my freezer in my summerhouse. There’s pages of endless predicaments.

Stand alone ‘online stalking’ is horrific. We are forced to live and work by means of the internet in one way or another. To do our banking, speak with clients etc. But once you’ve been hacked, it changes the way you do things. There are many types of stalking, intimidation and harassment. Though when it comes into our homes, there feels as though there is never any closure.

I had hoped by now, somebody could have got into his devices and stopped the torment. But not. What annoys me equally. are the people out there, who get paid to make our lives a misery. My hotel door was hacked, the garage door wire snapped. The back doors at home here and at work damaged. People ask me, why I have not told the police? Because how can I prove it’s the same person when there’s years of trying to explain the psychology, social baiting and interference! … Then in cases, such a stalker would relish having the upperhand in terms of calculated risks and targeted intimidation. Feeding the fire can often make it worse, where the victim becomes powerless. But then … ignoring the problem does not help either. I think I’ve coped very well, considering the financial and lifestyle loss to me. Losing my data, my right to privacy.

The only way to catch the coward, who uses third parties and the internet, is to hack them out of their own game with legal professionals. As otherwise where is the proof … apart from those who also see the patterns of the psychopath online and habitably. It’s just not worth letting it all destroy my peace. Keeping busy helps. Otherwise it starts to grind away. Over 12 years now. The bloke needs to get a real life and ‘professional’ medical help as opposed to paying ‘professional’ surveillance recruits.

Believe me the last type of man to catch my heart would be an addict with absolutely no adult knowledge in terms of life skills or emotional intelligence, whose physical appearance and character do not appeal in any way.

If someone wants to be around another, it’s a two way agreement. And I let people know. I wear my heart on my sleeve. Not always a good thing, but at least peeps know where they are with me. If I am hitting on someone I want, feel free to send me flowers. I keep it simple. If you need to stalk me, it’s cos my doors are closed, so fuck off. And ladies, if the guy you want doesn’t send you stems, then move on. They will whip up a bunch for the right one. Valentine Day will stay with me for a long while! I was digging around slums trying to help out a community. Last thing I needed was a big slap in the face, metaphorically speaking. But that’s life.

Anyway, watch the show. I hope it’s going to help others. Though sadly the perpetrators who need to watch it probably won’t. And it’s not just women who get stalked. I have a male friend across the pond who had a woman turning up at all his events to grab his attention. And apparently she uses the internet too! It’s caused utter heartache amongst his friends and family. A ‘typical’ Honey Trapper. All you need is one bad penny to upset the apple cart. But hopefully, the addicts of nastiness get to move on. Such unnecessary acts of revenge and spitefulness are never a resolve when people cannot have their own way. Jog On and get your Dignity in Check you Low Life.

I have been sorting out shoddy purchases all week. Really pissed off about it. I work hard for my money. Watch out for websites with AI images where the stuff arrives and it’s not even remotely like the listing. Then you can’t find a return address. I will add to this blog later along with the images of what was sent from China. I am not opposed to all Chinese goods, but I despise corruption. How many other people have used their website?!

I hope you are all having a fabulous day. Speak later. I am cleaning and thinking about new ideas. And remember folks! Most people are lovely.

Tiffy Belle. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Belleva Video by Hilzy’s World.

I used to love making videos. Although, I was never any expert. But since I struggle with phones and the amount of hard drive required on a PC being too much expense, I let the past-time go.

A while ago I was contacted by a lady named Jane who asked if she could make a video of Belleva in conjunction with Stay Blackpool. The reason being, belleva house would be a good example of a newly refurbished hotel to help flagship Blackpool nationwide. by return, supporting all accomodation within the stay blackpool acredited brand.

I initially hesitated, since I considered it may offend the neighbours and I can’t be done with it anymore, but a video went ahead in general about the street, whilst I was out shopping, where Jane mentioned on the footage, she would return to see inside Belleva. Since the hotel was not fully completed, I did worry. But then I told myself, these things are great for progress. It did however ‘offend’ some of the neighbours. You just cannot win. The logic being obvious. Common sense, not so.

This weekend I had a lovely guest named Hilary, alongside Stewart (her husband) who saw the video about Belleva by Jane of Visit Fylde Coast which prompted them to book a break here. Hilary too has a media channel and asked if she could make a video during her break. I gave Hilary a blank canvas of the remaining vacant rooms and left her to it. I am always more than happy to leave empty rooms open for guests to take a look around. I am extremely relaxed about the place. Belleva Blackpool is a real home from home environment. Guests are welcome to dress a mannequin, sell their art here etc. Am completely approachable and open to suggestions. I want to learn from others. It is a joy! And we are already involved with several Northern Fundraisers that caught our eye. One of which being Liverpool Women’s Hospital.

This morning Hilzy’s World sent the video to me. I did not expect or ask for this privilege and am so very humble. Hilary had clearly gone to so much effort and put a great deal of love into the footage. It reminded me much of my younger self, when I used to craft film snippets, sharing my journey online. Hilary and Stewart are a lovely couple and it was so lovely to meet both of them. I believe Hilary has a really engaging and sincere tone. I have since watched a few of her videos and thoroughly enjoyed them. Well worth subscribing if you enjoy YouTube and kind characters with genuine opinion.

Spring is well and truly here. New beginnings and positive mindset. Here’s to a peaceful end to conflict on a global scale and those who suffer at the hands of hate, violence, weapons, ego, and power. What a worry. Love to ALL and may there be compromise in troubled areas of the globe. There is never a winner with war. The leaders have to stop escalation, even if that means surrender. With surrender comes debate. With cyber wars, chemical weapons and nuclear deterrents there can only be misery. Keep the civilians safe. Disarm. Stop.

Do not agitate a growing conflict. It achieves nothing. Taking sides can only cause hostility. Diffuse the Beehive. Stand back and sit round the table. Every conflict has a beehive. The oppressor and instigator. The problem maker. This is not a football match to give you something to cheer along. This conflict is an open ended game, that could end in global catastrophe. No more loss of innocent lives. It is always the humble who suffer the hardest. Politicians have bunkers. The rest of us don’t. Remember that. Stay Real. The suffering of the meek is not an action movie being played out on sites like Twitter. This is real evil on earth. There can be no winners. Every Mother mourns her children, regardless of region.

I thought a global pandemic may put things into perspective and make us all feel more grateful for what we often take for granted. But it seems to have brought out the worst in some.

BE ASHAMED.

Tiffany Belle Harper. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper