Tag: cyber bullying

As a british citizen I call upon the UK government to stand for victims of stalking, abuse and intimidation. To address our basic rights to privacy at home and in the work place.

I call upon The British Government across all parties to unite in tougher laws against common stalking. Where every claim of a stalking offence is fully investigated, regardless of how unlikely that claim may initially seem. To include the use of hidden spy cameras, phone hacking, car and GPS trackers, web and Alexa sabotage, allowing a coward to operate anywhere in the world using portable magnetic, web and radio spyware.

Stalking is a violation of basic human rights that can destroy lives. It imprisons the victims and removes their right to privacy. We must bring maximum penalties and full exposure and a register to name and shame stalkers. Stalking is the highest form of cowardice and can in many cases, result in physical harm to the victim. Stalkers are of the belief they can take the privacy of another without their permission. It is psychological abuse and mental torture. No person should feel invaded or imprisoned in their personal space, at work or any vicinity.

People are being traced online as home workers to find their precise locations and pursued across social accounts, regardless of the blocking facilities, thus denied their basic rights to earn an income or lead normal lives. And a stalker may observe family, friends and routines to establish the whereabouts of the sufferer.

The UK will not be a free society until stalking is taken seriously and addressed on every level, to catch the sick mind of a coward and bring the Peeping Tom to justice in a court of law. As such, stalkers are mentally sick and a danger to society. A stalker lives in denial and when this person has too much time and money on their hands, it may become a spiralling, endless obsession. Stalkers are dangerous to themselves, their mindset – but most of all the innocent sufferers. And many stalkers appear to lead normal lives, little beknown to those around them the horror they cause in their ‘other’ world of jealousy and self-dissatisfaction. Stalkers are unhappy and morose in their thought patterns – taking pleasure from the sense of control and bad intention firmly rooted within them.

A stalker may be reluctant to seek help or any form of counselling for their disorder, believing it is all the fault of the victim and probably everything else they cannot control. A stalker is delusional and dangerous in need of attention by any means. A stalker in many cases will live by mood swings (peaks and troughs) with addictions to enhance self-confidence. Making
the wrong decisions under the influence of mind alerting substances, alcohol (not limited to but) being the most common.

A stalker will have a perpetual need for any means of attention, praise or credit, finding it hard to obtain any sense of spiritual awareness or self-peace. They may be reluctant to engage in sport or group activities, where they are unable to control the outcome. The thought of losing or not being in control of any situation is their downfall, as in turn they are unable to live in a real world of day-to-day life experiences, for which most of us deal with as part of  our routines – and this may include parenthood, charity and/or community work in the real world and healthy, happy relationships of equal measures. Where both parties can connect with society on every level, with respect.

A stalker will be insecure and see most situations as ‘rivalry’ or an ‘obstacle.’ They have a fear of not winning or being out shone. Preferring to remain stuck in their own minds with a belief of having to appear greater or better. In turn the stalker may take pleasure in causing further anguish to the victim for any of their own shortfalls, as this is easier than acquiring self-help or an acceptance of their psychotic patterns to intimidate, belittle or bully those who are not able (or reluctant) to fight back. The stalker not having the inner strength to take responsibility for his/her lack of fulfilment, thus choosing obsession and control as an alternative. In turn the stalker becoming stuck in dated views and opinions with the belief they are always right and already know everything (ignorance and self-denial being significant.) And the concerning thing about stalking is because they remain stuck in their own cycle of opinion, they can go on to stalk their victims throughout their life, with
no means to end their cruel indulgences. Or worst still instigate physical harm to the victim.

The stalkers sense of power outweighs any kind of common logic, empathy or acceptance of the harm they ‘will’ on their fixations. And the abuser will take pride in shaming others, in order to shed responsibility for their own ill deeds. Many playground bullies go on to stalk, bully and/or abuse the seemingly vulnerable. Or perpetrators who were bullied during their younger years may go on to enjoy intimidating others in later life, perhaps due to not forgiving or letting go of their own ‘earlier’ life experiences. Either way, these patterns can never be acceptable in a modern, evolving society.

Is ‘stalking’ and ‘intimidation’ what you want for your loved ones? To allow the susceptible and in cases, associated loved ones to be held to hostage in their own homes, and places of work without a voice? I call for immediate action to end phycological baiting and illegal stalking and give all sufferers the protection and assurance they deserve and the right to live in a free society. And for those enlisted to carry out such acts of embedding tracking devices and pin
hole software (for example) to be prosecuted alongside the instigator.

To be a bystander is to play a part in the horrific circumstances inflicted upon those who are at risk. A stalker will target a person he believes to be alone or isolated, because a stalker is a coward and unable to accept, he/she is never going to be a part of the victim’s aspirations or future plans. They refuse to accept this or to live in their own alignments. Bringing misery and desperation to the target. Stalking is hard line abuse.

I hope this blog can help at least one person to get past unnecessary hardship and provocation. Furthermore, I have written a ‘self-help’ book with plenty of practical advice about this topic. Showing factual cases of sublime threats, locations, personal details and information from a stalker who uses phycological techniques, numerical and detailed references to real time personal events, coinciding with dates and synchronicities as a result of technical intrusion. It is a systematical diary and reference for those who seek support. This is a book that is now with an educated friend, agent and editor for whom I have known for many years and has followed such events in detail with this particular subject and field. Also, how to track various forms of spyware, then associate it to the origin for further ongoing long-term law enforcement and
media investigation.

On a much brighter note, sleep well, all. Most people are just lovely and there’s so much to live for. Remember most real people have busy lives and plenty to do in their own worlds. We are all building life’s tapestry, one way or another. Only a very small minority object to that. We choose who we want around us. And no person has any right to take our freedom.

Confide. Walk Tall. It’s not your fault this is happening to you and most importantly to those who suffer at the hands of abuse or intimidation, as a wise friend who has since passed, once told me, we are stronger together. We are survivors and things can get better. Speak with loved ones and never confront or agree to negotiate any kind of resolve with a prowler/abuser. They will use this to gain your awareness, causing further harm.

Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

name and shame the coward

This is so dreadful it is hardly worth sharing but I will. A friend sent me a screenshot from the woman who for eight years now has devoted her timeline on the Twitter platform, hiding behind her celebrity partner to attack and stalk me whilst simulating my ideas, titles and covers to write the most mundane books, despite being a reading addict herself – she’s made her fortune this way. It is a gift to inspire anyone yet a curse to endorse hatred and bitterness. A woman is a Goddess to be adorned – not a victim of her appearance. The soul runs much deeper. And in this day and time a good woman will already know that together we nurture this unstable planet and not use torrid hatred to divide and seperate. Your wealth is not your soul. Your soul is your true intent and an ugly soul is fine if it can be healed. But every now and again we find a soul that is empty. And we let that go to the waste of our universe and we do not show remorse. Be original – live your life and be inspired by your own footsteps.

I am not on Twitter. It was posted shortly after I put a photo of me wearing a hat a friend sent me to help him with his current situation in crisis. My street name is Queen Bee. I am a street photographer and I am trusted by many artists. So the yellow hat was hugely symbolic. It took him months to make it and I won’t have him ridiculed. It’s enough now. If a child behaved like this to another a child it could cause them to self harm or become withdrawn. It is disgusting a grown woman who has all she wants in life has resorted to such pure hatred. I even held out a letter of hope at the weekend, offering to help them find a new pet to replace their cat that died. This type of cyber bullying is prevalent amongst all age groups not just kids. It was not enough for her to distribute poison pen messages to animal welfare groups. My time helping kids who are going through bullying at school showed me a cyber bully will use manipulation and cryptic games to make the target feel vulnerable and isolated. But for a grown woman to indulge … it’s beyond comprehension. I have tried to get her head on but she hides when confronted. I talk face to face. I am ready. Always ready to face a bully because they are the scum of this earth.

If it does not stop I will be naming/shaming and invite her (once more) to speak with us face to face about her ongoing spite campaign against me. I am trying my best to build good spirit during this tough time. It is so sad when a small few of others resent it and want to tear people down due to their own insecurities. Please note the lovely person who devised this fund raiser has no idea how it has been used to attack me. I feel sad a lovely cause has been used as a weapon to pack a Tweet. This is exactly what we need to break down in our sick society.

Even if I did look like a scarecrow it would not make me any less loved as it is what’s inside that counts. I despise cowards who hide behind their keyboards. I wish she would leave me alone. It would have been better not see it to be honest. It won’t stop me trying. If I behaved like that towards someone my family would be disgusted with me. Anyone who endorses a bully is just as bad. What a dreadful woman to still be full of revenge during such difficult times. What a waste of her energy. Keep going everyone – small steps make progress – stay in the positive. Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

My Truthful Thoughts without Bias by Tiffany Belle Harper – Rishi Sunak – Fake Media and Hospitality in the UK – APRIL 15th 2020

Grab a cuppa – have a read. Here’s my thoughts. The image above I took from the internet. It is Rishi Sunak who is the current Chancellor of The Exchequer in the United Kingdom. A job he has not held for long and I feel I must send my best wishes at this difficult time for our planet.

Maybe this is a huge awakening where we are challenged to look at our own worlds. Who we love – who and what matters most – to let go of hate, resentment and negativity towards us and try focus on the positive aspects in our immediate circles – wherever in the world that may be. Our planet and our purpose. But then we do have our own sense of survival where we see how this could affect us personally in the long run. There are elderly people running guest houses and bed and breakfasts who would become front line if we are to re-open too soon. I also have friends with hospitality businesses who have young children. Most of us sleep in the same building as our guests and then we cook their breakfasts, change their beds, clean their toilets and bins. We help drunk people up the stairs and we deal with all the problems that can arise with the responsibility of hospitality. We don’t go out to work, we live in it 24/7. 18 hour shifts if we are not woken by people losing their keys or a power cut. Rooms too hot or too cold – baby bottles need warming etc etc. Guests may wake you anytime during the night if they are not in comfort for often the small price paid for a room and breakfast. We are always at their disposal.

Now I don’t know how we could wear masks and gloves to cook and serve breakfasts, clean toilets and change beds. We do not go out to work, we take all that is around us to work with us. We have guests who may have underlying health reasons who embrace a trip to the seaside to feel better. In turn we become just as vulnerable. We don’t have ventilators or nurses to hand, we just have our own resources that are not abundant at the best of times.

I believe in my heart this is nowhere near the time to open doors to hospitality. We need to first establish what needs in society are most essential and step back into this with caution. It cannot be an all or nothing situation. It would be mass murder to throw each sector back to work without considering the importance of life before money and profit. Public places of pleasure would be first to suffer due to the sudden influx of the public after complete isolation – our immune system is not designed to turn so radically in one step. I can only speak from my own opinion.

I worry about the hardest hit of this whole pandemic becoming homeless as it happened to me but under different circumstances. I escaped a life that almost cost me mine. My youngest son stood by me and I went on to travel to find myself once more. I made little money but enough to have freedom. I went on to get hurt with many lessons but this time emotionally with extreme abuse by two people where the only power they had was fake media, over a period of many years and apparently they are still going at it – but that’s in my past and sadly still their future – I really do feel very sad for them and their addiction to social media. I then found love and I grew into a better person as a result of the lessons I went through and how to stand up to what I can only describe as pure greed and ego directed at me during extreme hardship.

But with The Akashic. The Universe – we all leave our blueprints – and this is not inclusive of those who live in a fake world. We cannot hide from our wrong doings. It’s impossible in the bigger picture. My man read the book a couple of years ago and he sees the still provoking patterns. Although the book continues progress and is getting edited as my spelling/grammar at times is beyond awful, due to the pain of writing. But the book is more so witty, joyful and optimistic, apart from the small negative amongst the pages. It’s stored for the future with the trusted. He has watched all this unfold over a long period of time. Truth wins in the end and I went through a process of not allowing myself to look at the harassment where I have not done so for over three years now. To me it does not exist unless someone tells me about death threats towards me and my pets, even jest about my relationship, and to be honest I would rather not know. It is unfortunate they enjoy their millions based on ideas that are not their own. They could not sleep well at night. Alcohol being obvious courage. We simply need to let go of the belief we need to look at those who wish to harm and harass to make way for our new beginnings. And I am humble that I finally managed to do this after many years of believing it was all I was worth. A big factor being the millions of followers used to shield their true intent built through false fame. But I found the love of my life and he is helping me in ways you will never know.

I want to find a way in my mind to sustain the economy, whilst those in power work out what is the best plan of action and I believe this is to claim the billions of funds set aside in off shore banking from the wealthiest who do not pay taxes. How to do this, I have no idea but this money is needed now to keep food in the cupboards for those that will be hit the hardest. In particular small businesses and the self employed. We need to bridge the gap and pay people, including the rates for mainstream, only what the individuals are worth and that includes celebrities. If they are not prepared to name their researchers they should face criminal sentences for taking money they did not earn. Ideas that are not their own. When there is enough proof they should be made to relinquish their wealth and put it back where it should have been.

Since being physically attacked I developed A.D.D. attention deficit disorder which is not a curse, It is a blessing because my mind sees a lot of things in one day. I am not into politics, as I cannot stand bullying and persecution. I am into community and helping one another. Not giving time away to those who would not do the same by return. People who offer acts of kindness by humble actions, where we look after one another. However, in saying this, I believe the Chancellor of the UK Rishi Sunak, has been a brave person, one I am sure his parents are proud of. All through this his he has stood to council. He has tried to make bad of what can only be described as an extreme emergency – could any of us truly be in his shoes right now? The Prime Minister becoming unwell, recovering at Chequers. It seems to be that Rishi Sunak has been the rock here. I say if we have to accept a Tory government – he becomes the next Prime Minister. I thought this yesterday and I asked my cards. They confirmed this. It’s my gut feeling. I may be wrong, none of us know what could come out of this.

I have felt rough this last couple of days. I had a bug over Xmas that lasted three weeks but each year I do get bugs due to a vitamin D deficiency. And I am not getting any younger. But I worry for the future, for my loved ones. Who would take care of them the same way I do. The vets are closed, health services are strained. All the things we perhaps took for granted are no longer here. Then there’s fear and paranoia of not quite knowing what is going on.

On the gov website the advice about the coronavirus is that doctors are allowed to write cause of death as the pandemic without any actual proof, provided the deceased shows symptoms – but how many other illnesses with similar symptoms could be the cause of death? How can we monitor this without any real scientific facts. It’s all just been thrown together. I think we need to know how this is going to be presented much more logically. The rate that fear is being spread through the web is horrific, especially for those who rely only on this.

There really is too much testosterone flying around and I worry about mayhem taking over a peaceful way. I hate screaming and shouting, I just want peace. We cannot rush this just for capital growth. We need a solid and careful plan in place to continue protecting the most vulnerable. All these views are my own. Everyone matters. Everyone has a voice. We just have to come from our hearts and see the good in all bad situations and to protect the purest progress. I hope Rishi Sunak does what he feels right in terms of humanity and salvation. It must be a huge burden. I have not studied his agenda or insight on this. I have simply felt good in him, that’s all and I go with my feelings in the moment. What do any of us know right now? Like my Dad said, the only thing we learn more each day, is that we know less.’ Which is where I formed my strap line saying many years ago, ‘less is more‘.

Tiffany Belle Harper

by Tiffany Belle Harper

results of ‘online bullying traits’ by Tiffany Belle Harper

A while ago, I delved into the subject of online bullying. Subsequently, I had a much bigger reaction than I anticipated. Quite a few people contacted me confidentially (of course.)  I then looked closely at the people who instigated the bullying/stalking/harassment using ‘mainly’ social media. Surprisingly, I found common traits.

SIMPLE WAYS TO DEFINE A BULLY

  • They do not participate in group activities away from the internet, unless they are with people they are familiar with.
  • They do not have many interests away from the internet.
  • They do not participate or watch any sport in a team capacity.
  • They refer mainly to themselves using their social pages.

For instance, a football match. It has a start and finish time. This is a great way to battle out any competitive spirt in fun format. However, I have noticed most bullies don’t participate in any sport or visit live games and events which involve team spirit. I believe this is because they have a fear of losing. They don’t want to play a fair game. Yet, it’s not about the winning, but more so taking part. Fair team-playing with set rules would make a bully feel entrapped.

cybeAll in all, a bully is not a team player- they want to be viewed as a leader. If you have an online bully, take a look at their profile. How often are they participating in team playing events? You will probably find, never – unless there is some type of agenda involved. So, the best way to beat a bully is to get involved with teams and groups away from the internet.

As soon as you have found like minded people, there is every likelihood they will retreat for fear of exposure. And … sadly find someone else. But then … that next person in turn, will also go on to learn how to get past this cycle of abuse. Bullies teach us valuable lessons. And actually, their resentment and cowardice make us stronger.

For me, having hobbies makes me feel empowered. Perhaps you are the same? But when things get tough, I turn to new things happening in the community and there’s always something positive and productive taking place, everywhere we go. I enjoy spending some of my time alone. I enjoy the blogging community, for instance.

But, remember, people can be anyone online. When you find a kindred spirit within your online community, perhaps try to meet them in person. But of course, ensure your safety first and always ensure the friends you make online are real people. For children, never meet strangers unless you have permission from your parents or guardians and always take a friend along with you.

Basically, being online can be great fun. And if you count the positive aspects – a bully is a small factor within the bigger picture. Surround yourself with team work and love, and watch them fade away. Make sure you have fun in the real world, before anything else. The rest is a bonus! Most importantly, love who you are, find your own self worth and before long your entire world will change for the better. Self-fulfilled prophecy. Think about the future with optimism. Paying attention to bullies is a form of self-harm. But remember, they are just ‘little dots’ online and out there in the ‘real’ world, most people you meet will be beautiful. Keep walking and stay close to those who love you.

There are lots of useful websites and support groups both here in the UK and globally, offering support and advice if you feel you are being affected by your experiences online.

Tiff. X

 

by Tiffany Belle Harper