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My Truthful Thoughts without Bias by Tiffany Belle Harper – Rishi Sunak – Fake Media and Hospitality in the UK – APRIL 15th 2020

Grab a cuppa – have a read. Here’s my thoughts. The image above I took from the internet. It is Rishi Sunak who is the current Chancellor of The Exchequer in the United Kingdom. A job he has not held for long and I feel I must send my best wishes at this difficult time for our planet.

Maybe this is a huge awakening where we are challenged to look at our own worlds. Who we love – who and what matters most – to let go of hate, resentment and negativity towards us and try focus on the positive aspects in our immediate circles – wherever in the world that may be. Our planet and our purpose. But then we do have our own sense of survival where we see how this could affect us personally in the long run. There are elderly people running guest houses and bed and breakfasts who would become front line if we are to re-open too soon. I also have friends with hospitality businesses who have young children. Most of us sleep in the same building as our guests and then we cook their breakfasts, change their beds, clean their toilets and bins. We help drunk people up the stairs and we deal with all the problems that can arise with the responsibility of hospitality. We don’t go out to work, we live in it 24/7. 18 hour shifts if we are not woken by people losing their keys or a power cut. Rooms too hot or too cold – baby bottles need warming etc etc. Guests may wake you anytime during the night if they are not in comfort for often the small price paid for a room and breakfast. We are always at their disposal.

Now I don’t know how we could wear masks and gloves to cook and serve breakfasts, clean toilets and change beds. We do not go out to work, we take all that is around us to work with us. We have guests who may have underlying health reasons who embrace a trip to the seaside to feel better. In turn we become just as vulnerable. We don’t have ventilators or nurses to hand, we just have our own resources that are not abundant at the best of times.

I believe in my heart this is nowhere near the time to open doors to hospitality. We need to first establish what needs in society are most essential and step back into this with caution. It cannot be an all or nothing situation. It would be mass murder to throw each sector back to work without considering the importance of life before money and profit. Public places of pleasure would be first to suffer due to the sudden influx of the public after complete isolation – our immune system is not designed to turn so radically in one step. I can only speak from my own opinion.

I worry about the hardest hit of this whole pandemic becoming homeless as it happened to me but under different circumstances. I escaped a life that almost cost me mine. My youngest son stood by me and I went on to travel to find myself once more. I made little money but enough to have freedom. I went on to get hurt with many lessons but this time emotionally with extreme abuse by two people where the only power they had was fake media, over a period of many years and apparently they are still going at it – but that’s in my past and sadly still their future – I really do feel very sad for them and their addiction to social media. I then found love and I grew into a better person as a result of the lessons I went through and how to stand up to what I can only describe as pure greed and ego directed at me during extreme hardship.

But with The Akashic. The Universe – we all leave our blueprints – and this is not inclusive of those who live in a fake world. We cannot hide from our wrong doings. It’s impossible in the bigger picture. My man read the book a couple of years ago and he sees the still provoking patterns. Although the book continues progress and is getting edited as my spelling/grammar at times is beyond awful, due to the pain of writing. But the book is more so witty, joyful and optimistic, apart from the small negative amongst the pages. It’s stored for the future with the trusted. He has watched all this unfold over a long period of time. Truth wins in the end and I went through a process of not allowing myself to look at the harassment where I have not done so for over three years now. To me it does not exist unless someone tells me about death threats towards me and my pets, even jest about my relationship, and to be honest I would rather not know. It is unfortunate they enjoy their millions based on ideas that are not their own. They could not sleep well at night. Alcohol being obvious courage. We simply need to let go of the belief we need to look at those who wish to harm and harass to make way for our new beginnings. And I am humble that I finally managed to do this after many years of believing it was all I was worth. A big factor being the millions of followers used to shield their true intent built through false fame. But I found the love of my life and he is helping me in ways you will never know.

I want to find a way in my mind to sustain the economy, whilst those in power work out what is the best plan of action and I believe this is to claim the billions of funds set aside in off shore banking from the wealthiest who do not pay taxes. How to do this, I have no idea but this money is needed now to keep food in the cupboards for those that will be hit the hardest. In particular small businesses and the self employed. We need to bridge the gap and pay people, including the rates for mainstream, only what the individuals are worth and that includes celebrities. If they are not prepared to name their researchers they should face criminal sentences for taking money they did not earn. Ideas that are not their own. When there is enough proof they should be made to relinquish their wealth and put it back where it should have been.

Since being physically attacked I developed A.D.D. attention deficit disorder which is not a curse, It is a blessing because my mind sees a lot of things in one day. I am not into politics, as I cannot stand bullying and persecution. I am into community and helping one another. Not giving time away to those who would not do the same by return. People who offer acts of kindness by humble actions, where we look after one another. However, in saying this, I believe the Chancellor of the UK Rishi Sunak, has been a brave person, one I am sure his parents are proud of. All through this his he has stood to council. He has tried to make bad of what can only be described as an extreme emergency – could any of us truly be in his shoes right now? The Prime Minister becoming unwell, recovering at Chequers. It seems to be that Rishi Sunak has been the rock here. I say if we have to accept a Tory government – he becomes the next Prime Minister. I thought this yesterday and I asked my cards. They confirmed this. It’s my gut feeling. I may be wrong, none of us know what could come out of this.

I have felt rough this last couple of days. I had a bug over Xmas that lasted three weeks but each year I do get bugs due to a vitamin D deficiency. And I am not getting any younger. But I worry for the future, for my loved ones. Who would take care of them the same way I do. The vets are closed, health services are strained. All the things we perhaps took for granted are no longer here. Then there’s fear and paranoia of not quite knowing what is going on.

On the gov website the advice about the coronavirus is that doctors are allowed to write cause of death as the pandemic without any actual proof, provided the deceased shows symptoms – but how many other illnesses with similar symptoms could be the cause of death? How can we monitor this without any real scientific facts. It’s all just been thrown together. I think we need to know how this is going to be presented much more logically. The rate that fear is being spread through the web is horrific, especially for those who rely only on this.

There really is too much testosterone flying around and I worry about mayhem taking over a peaceful way. I hate screaming and shouting, I just want peace. We cannot rush this just for capital growth. We need a solid and careful plan in place to continue protecting the most vulnerable. All these views are my own. Everyone matters. Everyone has a voice. We just have to come from our hearts and see the good in all bad situations and to protect the purest progress. I hope Rishi Sunak does what he feels right in terms of humanity and salvation. It must be a huge burden. I have not studied his agenda or insight on this. I have simply felt good in him, that’s all and I go with my feelings in the moment. What do any of us know right now? Like my Dad said, the only thing we learn more each day, is that we know less.’ Which is where I formed my strap line saying many years ago, ‘less is more‘.

Tiffany Belle Harper

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Candle Making and Mental Health

I used to create hampers and hope to do this again in the future but I never made time to make my own candles to put in them. Last week I decided to have a go and I am pleased with the results for a first attempt. I purchased from a site based in the UK found on the internet. There’s a few that offer door to door delivery. I purchased soya pillar wax, cruelty free oils for scent and natural colouring. I also added some edible flowers as we don’t have flowers here at the moment. I do intend on potting up soon.

The wax had to be melted to around 90 degrees and then left to cool to around 55 degrees. It is suggested you add 10% oil (scent) to the weight of wax used. I added a tiny drop of colour to create pink or blue candles. I used glasses and cups I had available, following all guidelines. I prepared each vessel with a wick that sticks to the base of the candle holder.

I made these candles

Then I made a second batch using no colour and only essential oils, I added lavender, orange oil, almond oil and dried lavender too. They look bloody awful but smell good. Just thought I would share this info, as candle making is a good past-time. It was not costly. Been practising gel nails. That’s a different story. Not sure what I did wrong but the shellac just peeled off. Back to the drawing board. Am trying to make use of some of the bits I bought during the summer to do something for myself. Now there is time.

I realise that funds will be tight for many. That’s why writing is so therapeutic and setting up a blog is actually free. It’s a good way to keep in touch with friends and family. You can add pictures of your journey too. These next weeks we must try our best to stay indoors. The UK has reached a peak with the pandemic. I do worry people will be focusing on fake news. But we can all come together and be kind. It is good to see people supporting charities not necessarily with money but with contributions of what they can do with their crafts to raise awareness and community spirit. And remember a blog does not have to be topical or for people to understand, it can be a journal so you can remember your journey. People have asked me, but what is your blog about? I tell them, nothing really, it’s just mine to keep.

Anyone who does or who has ran/owned a bed and breakfast will know during peak season under normal circumstances, we can do 18 hour shifts. It is not a job that can make you rich but you grow in knowledge. You get to share the good and the bad times of so many strangers who are taking precious time out. I have made so many mistakes as I had no idea what I was doing. So this is a time for me to reflect on what I have learned in the industry so far and move forward with a more logical head. You can’t run a business with just your heart as you will get trampled on. You have to do in your spare time acts of goodwill and in the meanwhile focus on making good of what you rely on for an income – as when hard times come you can be left depleted.

Now during these times, we may experience self doubt, worry and paranoia. This applies to everyone. We need to remember there are people to talk with, albeit online or the phone or to write and find ways to share your feelings, as mental illness is awful when we are faced with new situations. Even our pets feel the change. The birds know things are different. There are many aspects of nature that will be missing us now. I know the seagulls are wondering where the scraps are out there. We are all working together.

Jealousy, greed and ego are parallel now to acts of sincerity where there is poverty. There are those less fortunate that won’t change and those that will change. We need to keep ourselves well to the best of our ability. I worry for the food workers. I worry as we need them to keep our food fluid. To search for often small businesses that deliver to the door. To make good of food. When I was homeless I learned to make very little go a long way. I hate throwing food away. This is not the best time to preach about diets to people who are living from hand to mouth. If you are starving you will take food from a bin.

Being extreme in our views now will inevitably make people feel isolated, as though they are excluded. I believe the food chain should be organic and away from factory production. I see nothing but packaging and waste in the world but that’s something we can address by being humble in our choice of food. When we look to save money the right resources flourish. If  you are 100% vegan, there are many groups to pioneer this. But to attack people for their own choice at this difficult time is a form of bullying. With facts and kindness people will learn to adjust their preferences. Brut force and alienation is a wicked game.

I use a local supplier and local farm to purchase my breakfast supplies and my new project will be vegan and vegetarian if it takes off. My new project is more about lifestyle. But I manage a bed and breakfast, also. A bed and breakfast is for visitors of all creed, colour and style. It’s not a platform to hand out opinions. But a retreat is more niche. It’s not easy learning new skills but I am trying. I am trying to involve myself with my kids interests as we have grown apart due to us all working so hard. I bought my children up on music. It’s all we could afford to do as a family. Music helps. Stay safe. Be kind. Stay off the habits and obsessions it won’t help you and just leave people to enjoy what they have at this time.

Have a good weekend. Happy Easter. Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

My life today – April 2020

There’s five pets here now. Angel she’s a cross breed Chihuahua, Jack Russell for which I rescued from a puppy farm 14 years ago. Evie Blossom who is a Bichon Frise, Maltese, Chihuahua that a friend gave to me. I didn’t want another dog at the time, having just lost Foley (my little Tibetan Terrier) he was 21 and died in my arms 3 years ago. It turned out Evie was born on the same night and ironically enough, the same time too!  Although, it was already a tough period for me – losing Foley was excruciatingly painful. We went through just about every emotion together and he never let me down. Dogs don’t come out of the box ready made you have to work with them. The first few years are quite demanding. Now I have Buddy too. Buddy was a surprise. He’s 8 months old and is a Havana Silk. He belonged to my neighbours but with just having had a new baby and their rear yard not being secure, I adopted him from them.

Buddy is a male dog amongst two bitches. He has a lovely temperament and is playful. At night he’s no problem, he sleeps on the bed in a ball and is hugely content with his new life here. But during the day he wants to play lots. Which is perfect for a pup. However Evie and Angel aren’t so willing to join in sometimes. They are a pack, they all get along but Buddy could not be neutered last Friday as the vets are closed for business other than emergencies, due to the lock down. So having an alpha male alongside the bitches is not easy. It’s kept us busy to say the least. Without Buddy I would probably be focusing more on current affairs. But with a boisterous little soul there are many distractions. which are good. He is keeping us busy. Then, there’s my two cats. I will be honest. I am closest to the cats. They’re so funny. Chief and Tiger are twins and they are both 11 years of age – yet they look so different.

My son is now back home with us. He had to pop to Leeds to get some paperwork. He’s naturally concerned for the future. He is exceptionally logical and away from his comfort zone – as currently there is little logic in anything any of us are experiencing – in human terms, anyway. I will keep my spiritual thoughts to one side here.

I am hoping that science is trying to establish as many blood samples in their archive to see just how long corona virus has been carrying itself around on earth. Because for the future, anyone who dies who is carrying corona virus could mean, we never get out of lock down. We need to establish its history before we can determine the future, truthfully. There is without a doubt an epidemic pandemic/disease at bay with us. The plague, mad cows disease, bird flu etc etc, often we get a surge of something new. Many factors have tested our existence. And many more will, also. This is life. Life is an uncertainty. That is why I always wonder why we bother with wars when something like this can come along without much warning.

The Chinese culture will eat most things that move. Okay, I am not a fully fledged vegan. I treat myself to naturally farmed meat when I fancy it. But I know those animals graze and have a life beyond the way dogs are kept in some areas of the world. I don’t want to go into it. But I worked in the heart of rescue for many years as a volunteer and that coupled with homelessness and being a victim to social provocation and harassment, with money and fame being used to drive me sometimes, to a feeling of suicide, I had to get counselling. It was interesting as the counsellor told me that it was not me who needed therapy, but the two perpetrators. That I should invite to them a counselling session and let them explain their motives. But they would not meet to tell me to my face. They chose Twitter as an alternative – cowards play malicious mind games. I would often rely on social media to feel inclusive and share my news and videos. It was a waste of my years and I achieve a lot more face to face, it really does save time. And we have to try to avoid addiction with the internet. This wasn’t a moment, t went on for eight years. These could have been good times for me, and I will never get those years back.

It took a long inward battle to get through the harassment. I tried public retaliation but they screenshot it and sent it to rescues telling them to avoid me. I became a game in their lives, they were obsessed with me and my life. I didn’t care about any of the ego. I wanted to save animals as this was my only portal to give. I thrive when I am helping and most of the help went anonymously and it still does. There was nothing to be gained other than results for the animals. So really, I did succeed in helping as my objective was reached. Even though it nearly killed me, emotionally and morally as still to do this day I cannot believe or understand how far some people will go to destroy the good in others.

Yet, good things came in the future. I realise now that the people who are in my life are the ones I choose. That nobody should be taken for granted. Jealousy is a big problem in society. And those that don’t envy others are often the ones who get the wrath. This is because we are strong and although being em-paths we can move forward without guilt for the now. I want everyone to stay safe and well. In particular the children. They have their whole lives ahead of them. I have lit a candle for the children. Please spare the young. Spare all but especially the kids. They can’t die believing the world is this twisted. There are lovely people out there too and they are often the quiet ones. There are astounding artists out there. They are the future. I would say last year of the hundreds of guests who visited me at Golden Sands – most of them didn’t have their phones in the dining room and were not actually members on Facebook and the other platforms. This just shows that a certain type will sit there all day absorbing the algorithms and fake media, whilst a bigger majority aren’t bothered with any of it. TripAdvisor … all of it. I was busy and I ran a good business without needing the internet that much – other than the booking sites. But even then you soon get recommended word of mouth and a lot of my guests have my direct phone number and can text. Although I will say I never answer witheld numbers. Why would a person not want you to know who is ringing? It’s a form of bullying and cowardice. Leave us alone.

As for wanting a public platform. Think honestly. Who is out there now you would want to be? I’d struggle to answer that in any detail. I am a music fan. I like to listen. I never watch TV or the screen. I listen to Alexa and I listen to the radio. I am really into Vintage Cafe Jazz at the moment. We have it on through the night sometimes and it keeps the pets calm. I do Instagram for about half an hour each day because I love photography and it’s great for small businesses. People may not engage but they still see. I often watch quietly myself to source art or local supplies.

Really. God Bless All. God is a word that means to respect the good and light and to live with kindness. It is not a sin to say God Bless. Say anything as long as you mean it and come from good intention. Don’t look at the rubbish out there. It’s fake and mostly a way to spread hysteria. Try to wipe it out focusing instead with pictures and captions that make you feel happy. Avoid self centred narcisists. You don’t need their opinion or attitude. It is the last thing any of us could do with right now. It’s a great time for music. A great time to tune in. To be inspired by sound.

I am not into politics as I am too busy with this little world. But I am glad Jeremy Corbyn didn’t get into number 10, as I don’t want him being sick. I believe he is an activist and light worker and this doesn’t mean he should be a Prime Minister. He’s been through enough and it’s time for him to enjoy life with his family, friends and loved ones. The world needs his books and humanity and he will accomplish much more this way. In saying that, I want to send Boris Johnson well wishes as I do believe, despite me not being a fan of the conservatives in general (a couple of members revolt me in particular because of their down views on the working class) I believe that Boris does want to see change. Maybe this push will make him absorb the real people out there and this can be an education for him and some of his very weird party members, who may be out of touch with the real world. Everyone should be allowed to have a voice, whether they agree with your policies or not. This is a good time to hear them and to hear me, all of you. I am a socialist in the that I hate hierarchy and success is something we can share with those who really do deserve to do well in life. For the many. Not the few. If one good thing came from the dark period in my life it was to find others who felt the same.

It is sad that the self employed are victim here to such a big extent. People who want to work. Those who are trying to improve their journeys. And the disappointment of those who are chosen to lead the race, those who are not helping the working class enough. By that I could mean you? Are you doing enough with your time and money for those who also deserve a chance. And I remove myself from that equation. I have my loved ones near to me now. I will never push them away again. You can be eaten alive when you do stuff like that. I am with my loved ones both here and across the pond. I will never allow myself to be treated like that again. They need me too much.

Amen.

Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper