As I have become older, I realise that a lot of who I am is who I ‘have been’ and what I have or could become. We as humans are constantly evolving in such rapid times of change globally. Not just in terms of choice and decision-making, but also our climate is adapting to the solar world and the pain we inflict upon it. When the ice melts, we lose our land. It’s not fiction. It’s happening.

What is the point of world leaders attending eco summits to discuss how we can slow down the destruction of our planet while also endorsing war? War is a virus. Imagine how Earth must feel with all this hatred on her soil. And we do need change. But not in the likely places it would seem. We need to search statistically for where the greatest climate destruction derives from as a result of mankind, and then we must deal with it. It’s all there for those who are trusted in research. And sorry, but I don’t believe it’s cows. I have driven up the French Alps, spoken with the farmers, visited the little eateries amidst the abundance; the air was pure. On the other hand, if you looked at Earth from an aerial viewpoint and offset our fields against the holocaust and destruction in Palestine (for example), where would an alien being assume the climate is most affected? Come on, world, wake up!

But above all this talk of Earth, for appreciation of our own life force, a sense of self-value is imperative. As if we do not value our own time and resonance, we lose our core values in favor of trying to please the systems that may not be right for our mental well-being. There’s a thin line between loneliness and freedom, and if we spin too fast trying to resolve problems that don’t want a solution, we become depleted.

Sometimes addressing the simple things in life and having a sense of comfort in our immediate environment is more productive in the long term, simply because a happy spirit makes wiser decisions.

I think a big problem with the way the mechanics of human nature work is becoming a ‘people pleaser’ to the extent that ego and a sense of validation from strangers in large numbers become a cycle, to the point of worthlessness within one’s own self-esteem. And ego never has solved a problem. In fact, if we look right back through history, it’s one of our greatest downfalls.

Of recent weeks, I have gone from running two hospitality outlets single-handedly, where I was doing all my own laundry, cleaning, administration, and customer care. While also finding time for design projects and tending to all my pets. But I never felt ‘too busy’; I would have downtime, then bounce back up. As you may be aware from previous posts on here, for many years I have carried a burden of cowardice from the Hampstead Comedian, who for some reason has chiseled away at my life to the point of becoming rabid. I guess, with hard work, you can try to forget the terrors lurking in the background, and it’s true, hard work is so good for the soul. Though now things have slowed down for me while I plan ahead, I have reflected on my existence. It’s the season to soul search and not for the faint-hearted, as it is during these times we learn from our lessons/mistakes before taking the next leap. Adventures are things risk-takers go on, and they are mostly harrowing experiences. Peaks and troughs.

Though sitting at home scrolling on social media is not an adventure; it’s somebody else’s. Through our own experiences, we become nourished with wisdom that is of our own destiny and making. Throughout the years, I have enjoyed social media as it’s a lazy way to relax in our own space between work and home. For me, posting images from my phone of my hobbies and happy times was a joy. One of which many of us don’t participate in anymore.

And since Twitter (now X) was the point of the crappy situation where the Hampstead guy latched on with his other half, it was suggested to me that I go back there, block the situation, and get past the nasty stuff. As otherwise, me like many others who have experienced any type of violation such as stalking, baiting, and harassment can become silent – and this does not help the problem. Silence encourages it, as the goal of stalking is to create fear and worry.

The common day bully kicks off within the playground, where staff these days are trained more highly in catching it out before the group gatherings develop, as a result of the ring leader instigating hardship for the target. But also the workplace has such types who dwell in the suffering of others by means of psychology and baiting. Worst still, sexual connotation and hierarchy can be used to belittle the focus on the fixation. But again, such is dealt with more severely these days, and it’s good to learn that many businesses have or are preparing to make it mandatory for all staff members to take a course in the traits of bullying and how such behaviour destroys lives. Being aware and current does help those who suffer in silence. It’s good to talk, with empathy, about how life is really going for us, in safe surroundings.

Bullying isn’t a difference of opinion or a disagreement. It is not an argument or a viewpoint or a social media reaction. Bullying is a killer that is both cruel and cowardly. But to have such in your own home is unthinkable. More needs to be done with the deeds we cannot see. Where hackers who are highly skilled in tech choose a career with crime, as opposed to positive tech expansion. Probably due to the fact they get paid more.

I am speaking with people who tell me their own horror stories about this tech world we live in. Everything from online fraud to pinhole cameras found in sunbed rooms (for instance). AI is using women and kids to create porn videos/images. Apps that claim to keep our loved ones/children safe that instead are being used to follow us around without permission. Software running in the background of our PCs and phones. Nobody is safe from it. But I must be honest when I tell you that the majority of victims seem to be women of independence. Whereas physical and emotional abuse toward us, statistically derives from actual relationships past to present. The point being, a strong independent woman is not immune to being hacked and stalked to breaking point. God forbid.

When I rejoined the X platform, I was not really into politics. I have friends who are politicians from different parties. It’s about the authenticity of the individual. I believe if you become too fanatical about one specific party you end up being ignorant. It’s about balance. And that’s what a good leader should be: someone who has the common sense to hear both sides of the story, to read both sides of the coin. Otherwise, we are rejecting part of the nation that has different views. We must think logically to reach some kind of constructive outcome.

I think a lot of people in the UK are talking about American politics at the moment. I know my guests have discussed it with me in passing, in a jolly way (it’s tourism, I keep things light). And also the community here chatters about all the drama in the world. As for me, well, I have always liked Donald Trump. And when society makes us feel we are not able to speak positively of a person we admire, then we too fall under the bully spectrum. To not feel able to speak out about our likes, when indeed our current world thrives on the negative and the nastiness. The pile-on of political hatred and extremism right (and left) across the board. It’s not intelligent thinking at all. Small-minded people start civil wars that are so unnecessary. It’s blatantly obvious to those who sit on the fence of common sense, seeing the stirrers who are often hidden in fake pretty packages. Empty vessels make the most noise, and all that jazz...

I have many mixed race friends, and black music is the spirit of rhythm and dance. We all come in different shapes and sizes. Though in mixed societies, there’s not a real ‘white’ or ‘black’ skin. We’re many different shades and origins. And we can never truly know all our ancestors. I do believe ‘the woke’ thing has divided us. And it has caused political and cultural hatred. We must be careful that the actors in society do not use our principles to divide us. This can creep in with fake street rumors, hashtags, and misinformation spread across the web by ‘fake’ outlets. Basically, all types of gossiping. Sheep love gossip and bad actors.

We need to unite in our communities to promote kindness and support, ensuring everyone feels included. Otherwise, ego-driven power can strip away our uniqueness by creating division. This often distracts us from more serious issues like acts of war and premeditated riots. Where the vulnerable (sheep) are often caught up as chess pieces with absolutely no control of the outcome. Or in fact, often no idea what they are doing or the fundamental principles, in belief they are going to achieve a solution.

Moving on and importantly. I believe men and women need to get on. And as said before, many women are becoming less inclined to get to know the opposite sex for much of some of the above reasons. We can feel untrusting and cautious to the point of appearing defensive, when really most men are in need of our time and friendship. And nowadays, I hear the first thing either party may want to know about, is how your sexual organs perform — the size and capacity, the willingness to have sex on the first date. It’s hardly romance. And I wonder whether our younger generations even know what romance is? There’s so much porn available; is that their first perception of sex?

We need to put love back into our language. To flirt, fall in love, and be adventurous together. To make that one other person feel like a million dollars. To embrace all of the good things that life has for us by means of a sense of nurturing each other and going on silly dates. Or for those stuck in stagnant and dull routines, to rekindle your fires with one another and put the naughty back into bedtime. Even if that’s sharing ideas or a local pizza, it’s still togetherness. Little and often. Anything is effort. Though ‘stalking’ is not love. I may add at this point, as much as I love to write about romance, past attention from a nutter has never been less welcome. I have suffered great damage to my workplaces, car, garden and home.

Healthy loving that is consensual with two people who want to find peace and stability in their hearts is the answer to those who seek union. And with love we become better, healthier humans. We make wiser choices and we have less bad intention. Love is balance. When love becomes a wrangle, where there is turmoil and jealousy. We can only move forward and learn by our mistakes. Holding onto baggage is never the answer. And I wonder whether some of these people in the world who are spreading fear and hardship have ever loved at all. Or more likely, loved and lost. We can always love again. The world is full of new connections. New experiences. Only fear holds a fool back. Though most of all, ‘self love’ will stand with us eternally. And when we are in situations that make us doubt our own worth, don’t be afraid to close the door. There’s plenty more going on out there. Life’s a lesson. Learn it well. It is a great time to be alive.

We must remember ‘Legacy Media’, much of it wants to grow with us. Young people taking paths in journalism etc. It’s important to welcome that change and not let others influence the agenda into believing we are all at loggerheads with one another. There’s much positivity out there too. And individuals who work in media are posting their news across their social pages. Creating debate.

It all comes together as one big cake if we stop being angry. Gentle persuasion is more productive than arrogant meme’s and spiteful baiting. Think of the future, the next generation and how we as adults are perceived by attacking working sectors. We must encourage media journalism in all aspects and we must make any person who wants to work in those avenues feel inclusive and not belittled. There’s good and bad within all spectrums of news sharing. None of us are perfect by any standards!

Provoking a problem expands the most negative outcome. To choose friends wisely. A real mate won’t press buttons to start trouble on the doorstep, just to ‘get off’ on the aftermath. True friends/family will always want the best, above their own need for attention within any matter of goodness or indifference.

I will be leaving the X Platform. I have nothing to prove and nothing to gain. The nasty stuff, I don’t want in my thoughts. It was the very thing I tried to avoid. We must all stay in the positive light. Love is Stronger than Hate.

Tiffy Belle.