friendship – Page 3

Janet Alleyne at Home (a real goddess) role model – everything!

The most beautiful soul who has helped me through so many challenging times. Women need to come together and not drive one another apart. The world needs strong women who are mothers, sisters, daughters and friends. We both adore our sons. She’s one of my favourite role models for so many reasons. Janet is also on instagram sharing her private world, pets and family. I hope you enjoy her as much as we do. I love her very, very much. Click image above to go there. Thank You Janet to you and yours. From me and mine. Xx

I am going to make a video with Janet’s baking on it and put it here to share with you all very soon.

April 11, 2020April 13, 2020 by Tiffany Belle Harper

‘Telling the Truth’ by Tiffany Belle Harper

I may be fairly insignificant in terms of the hub of the web but I love my blog. I’ve had it for two years now. It has healed me. I think it’s saved my life a couple of times too. I’d hit the bottom – really.

Two significant changes in my life are my love of some great people out there – they are mostly men! Ironically, having come from physical and mental abuse – I do love men. I have two sons. I adore them most.

I care and I mean what I say. I believe I tell the truth. I don’t play games – I don’t use signs and mimic others. I say it how it is. And If I can use my heart and love combined with my qualifications to give someone a wake up call. I will. Sometimes my kids must hate me. I don’t care because I am their mum and only want what is best. Not to be loved or adored and certainly not thanked. But to know, I have tried. I don’t want enemies. But if someone treats me with disregard for being kind (tough) whatever – then I will defend myself.

We can forgive but we should never forget – people will become humble but can flip like a sixpence. Always be your own best friend – encourage others to do the same. We can all be unique together. When we pull the vulnerable into the equation it becomes a battle and there is never a winner. I will always support the under dog. I would prefer to be invisible with those who need help than stand tall and look down upon love. That’s the way I am. I ain’t changing. I don’t hide – I don’t gossip. There is not one person out there that can hold me to account. I will always talk face to face – but don’t ever expect an easy ride.

TBH©

April 8, 2018April 8, 2018 by Tiffany Belle Harper

‘Women be Crazy’ by Tiffany Belle Harper

A post for women and girls in particular. Never let anyone say you are weird, mad, crazy or stupid. You are beautiful. Own your body. Own your mind and have fun with your soul. There’s some gorgeous guys out there. I have some amazing male friends both gay – straight and transgender. It doesn’t matter. We are all human and it’s a case of letting go of fear and being ‘you.’ Simply ‘you‘ because you are so special and valuable. Men and women need one another. Demand Respect – Be a Goddess. Make nice friends that want the best for you and your feelings.

Tiffany. X

April 7, 2018April 12, 2018 by Tiffany Belle Harper

Please Do Not Suffer in Silence. Sharing is your Friend

It doesn’t matter how I feel about a person personally – it would not make any difference at all to learn they felt unhappy at home. I would fight for anyone who may feel detached from reality due to abuse and a sense of self doubt because of loving a person you do not necessarily like. I am stubborn. I have been in bad relationships and I walk away. But for others, it’s not so easy if you feel a sense of helplessness.

A few years ago – I had an abusive relationship, where I was assaulted and I am not playing victim here. But by sharing our experiences we can reach out to others. So if anyone ever wants to speak with me – do get in touch. I would not wish hardship on anyone. There is a better world out there for all of you who may feel trapped with your circumstances – sometimes feeling emotionally attached to a person may be fear related. Perhaps you feel so low in yourself that it seems impossible to survive without your abuser to pick you up and drop you down. Where you rely on their highs to get through their lows. But it doesn’t have to be like this for you. Life is short and you deserve abundance.

I know real love exists for all of us when we are brave enough to let go of that which controls us. We really do not have to fear anything. And I would hate to think any person (women and girls in particular) feel their lives are suffering because of oppression at home. I don’t want anyone out there to believe they do not have anyone to speak with. Because I care and I will make time for you. I promise. So don’t be a stranger.

An abuser is a weak person – they will not want you to participate in activities away from them. They may make you feel they depend on you and vice versa. But this is not true. Join groups and get involved with activities away from your abuser/controller. Find ways to grow as an individual and new doors do open. They really do and one day you will look back and wonder why you wasted all those years feeling like half the person you could be. Love is the Answer and abuse is not love. Be happy! It’s free too.

Tiffany. X

April 6, 2018April 14, 2018 by Tiffany Belle Harper

friendship #diary

Had a couple of emails from Kat and Kate – seems a lot of us are feeling out of sorts at the moment. It’s part of life – we have blips. And when things seem tough – we are learning most. It is about working together – not driving people apart. It takes courage to wear your heart on your sleeve. I believe being open and showing who we really are is the greatest way to reach out to others who may be suffering in silence. There’s no such thing as the perfect life.

Tiff. X

March 10, 2018March 10, 2018 by Tiffany Belle Harper