Tag: #nature

Flowers and Nature – Space and Freedom – July 2020

Sometimes we do need to switch off and find our root source. That can be a beach or a park, a balcony with terrace pots, a river, stream, a puddle of ‘sea water’ or just a pile of soil. Yes, sometimes – we do just need peace to connect with Gaia. Not so often we take our universe for granted, but enough to appreciate space and tranquillity in incredibly healthy doses.

Less is More … but I do also believe, hard work is good for the soul. That combined with a small tribe who love us unconditionally. The rest is crap – keep it simple. Stay focused on your own business and look after those who are in your heart because really, as you grow older you do realise that love is all we need. Love is Everything and when we magnify that message it comes back to us. Get rid of the rubbish and find new purpose to serve your journey best.

The last two years I have under gone every experience. Many of us can also say that. Be glad as life is about lessons, so … learn it well. I am glad I have gone through this huge transition. It has released a lot of anguish and I realise the biggest problem around me will probably always be jealousy. I do not have huge amounts of cash stashed in bank accounts. I am what I earn. And if ever I get rewarded for my hard work, I re-invest in the community ‘over and over’ again. Despite being shit on, despite being robbed, blackmailed and often made to feel terrified to be alone, even ‘at times’ going for a walk, I am blessed because there is a silver lining to every bad situation. We just have to face our fears and never quit.

I owe most of my life to my kids. I love my boys. They have never had it easy. But I do want them to always know that each step I take I do it for their future and hope life is kinder in many more ways. When I love, I do so unconditionally and when I am hurt I never forget. I stay remembering because I don’t want anyone to feel the wrath inflicted upon me. We should always stand up to nastiness and the best way to do that is to be your very best self. A smile can anger more than a punch.

We also need to know that being stalked or harassed is not a right we ever have to accept. If you don’t want someone in your life and they continue to enforce that power, then they are breaking the code of harmony. Send them karma. Karma is instant.

And no matter how strange your ‘one true love’ may seem to others, tell yourself, those who glare should take off their shades and face the ground with their own sense of self worth. Your business is your own – so tell them … “don’t mock others – go get your life together instead of staring at your phones all day. It ain’t happening here”.

Play music – set yourself free – let go of time – dance in the kitchen and sing in the rain – it’s quality not quantity. Don’t be greedy. Put your wealth on the table for those who gave you their aspirations so freely. Stand up to liars and thieves. What you earn is not their right. Let them dig for their own pennies. We all need to use a shovel.

Take time to support animal welfare. You don’t have to be famous or significant in terms of anything other a sense of wanting to share your home or land with the helpless. Actions speak louder than words.

Ask good neighbours how they are doing – keep doors locked to the bad. Watch out for quiet friends and don’t assume the loudest ones are not depressed either. Humans are complexed beings. Take care of those who take care of you both mentally and demonstratively. And remember, it is not your birth right to spend your free time trying to adjust to people who bore the hell out you. I avoid such situations.

Have at least one day a week where you don’t check your emails and turn off your phone. Life will manage without you in short measures. Stress and anxiety are no good for your balance – slow down when it gets too much.

You don’t need to meditate. Gardening, walking and crafting work just as well – if not better. You don’t  need to look great in gym wear or hang out with dolly birds – you can be just as happy in your pyjamas in the back yard, if you can hear the birds and smell the clean air – you can feel so free.

Look behind the pictures of your greatest ‘current day’ icons. We are much the same behind the curtains. Don’t buy the hype. Empty vessels make most noise. Tell people you love them. Love is not a dirty word and love is not a weakness. Love is all we have. Be thankful for it because one day it could be gone.

Appreciate those that make sacrifices for you to thrive and cherish – those whom you trust. As trust is the hardest thing of all. If you can count the people you ‘trust’ on one hand you are rich. In terms of that, I have wealth. I have some gorgeous people around me. But it’s taken a lot of lessons to find this. I want to maintain the balance. I really do … and I want those who know how much I love them to understand how grateful I am.

Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Winter Blues or New Petals

Each year around October I begin to sink into myself. I’ve spoken with other women who say the same. I think perhaps men may (I won’t say suffer as this is not the right term) step back, also. However, I believe from Winter through to Spring, women are affected more by this cyclical process. And perhaps it’s to reflect and digest what we have become and to evaluate where we are going.

I used to think I had depression but was diagnosed with a Vitamin D deficiency. Basically, lack of daylight affects my well being. But, I also believe we all need down time to raise up as a new emergence of our former selves. I suppose like a snake shedding its skin, or a caterpillar morphing into a butterfly. Catalysts … Or the best way I like to describe this process is as though a flower retreating to her roots. ready for a new outfit of colour and a beautiful sturdy stem branching from stronger growth. Time builds roots. Time and love. To be free from weeds. To work for our highest with the seasons.

Those we love around us will let us be at one with nature – ready for Spring and this is when we talk more with our closest. Retreat. Share and nurture true love. I  also find reading and music help assist this quiet time. To absorb the things I love most. To try and stay in valued territory and not to be afraid of the dark. To find solace and optimism in what is around me. Less is More. To not feel obliged or burdened. All ready for Spring. So it’s okay to be random. It’s fine to write poetry in the middle of night. We’re okay to express our soul food. This is nature. The rest can wait while we create …

Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

June #diary

I have been pretty exhausted. More mental tiredness than physical – but not in a harmful way. A year ago I never imagined things would be like this today. We need to know that life can change in any direction pretty quickly. My life is currently chaotic. I do not have my own kitchen or private garden. Everywhere is public and this takes some getting used to when you are used to spending days or weeks even, in your own head space. There is a balance. I had hoped in my younger years I would be leading a life of leisure by now, but not the case. Yet a part of me would not have it any other way.

I do miss though, not being able to find time to just write in a quiet location, so grabbing a few days away here and there is a life line. I am not posh and whilst I love the thought of being in splendid hotels I would rather just find little spaces to source my inner craft of mood boarding for my project, my writing and enjoying photography. Talking of hotels … beam me up!

My street is still good but the new place is attracting a bit of controversy for no particular reason. This is why a change is as good as a rest … as otherwise we can become embroiled in gossip and small talk which is not good for progress. Don’t mention ‘fence’. Heaven knows what I’ve done wrong now? Yet, we must remain detached and on track for self improvement as life is very short. We are born alone – we die alone and as I always say, ‘ the bit in the middle is to embrace’.

I am enjoying work but it does scare me, as you sort of morph into a person who is in a state of constant giving and this can distract us from our true purpose during our own unique pathway. But this can change. This can change with will power in conjunction with the universe and the light that goes with it. To share love – to not judge and to accept one another regardless of our backgrounds and circumstances. To not intoxicate our brains with problems and addictions – but to find solace with nature and healthy eating in order to promote a longer and more substantial life. To find space for our own time. To avoid jealousy and other worthless emotions. We are one.

I do hope you appreciate the beautiful strawberry moon and a very happy Daddy Day to my one. I had better go as otherwise I will return to Blackpool with nothing done and that is a road to failure. I have a pile of tasks to sort out this week. A constant battle, a battle that I do not entertain. I like it simple. All is well. I wish you the same. Love my kids. Love my family. Love my friends. Nothing will change that and nothing should want to. Love is everything.

By the way I still have my seagull he has visited almost daily now since last year. An ongoing blissful friendship. He drops shells on my head and you may be surprised to know he is actually shy. He is a feathered diplomat. A messenger for peace! Bless my little fluffy fella.

Tiffany. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper