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The Joy Journal is so Healing by Tiffany Belle Harper
I enjoy Instagram when I want to find something or to see what those I care for are up to, because it’s comparatively positive compared to other media platforms that are causing a lot of hysteria not to mention algorithms and fake news. There are some vulnerable people out there living in the horrors and they should stop looking at it!
Last week I started following Mrs (beautiful) Laura Brand on instagram – long over due. I believe she works with cyclical cycles and you can feel her words describe nature – it’s sincere and passionate. Her instagram page is just lovely – there’s no bravado – you can fall into her descriptive – you want to be out there with her rummaging amongst the flora and fauna looking for petals and potions to make good use of craftiness. Perfect for anyone feeling stuck indoors and in particular those caring for children or with mental health problems heightened by this situation. Like I say, please try to stay with the positive. It is not all doom and fear out there. There’s hundreds and thousands of people doing fantastic things in the real world. Actions really do speak louder than words and that’s why when I go online, I love to look at pictures of nature and interiors. Baking and positive quotes – not to mention street art and good causes. It makes me feel so good about each day when I begin to fall to concern about the future, in particular for those less fortunate than me. I have been there and the fear of not knowing whether you have a home the next day is not worth beginning to describe. I worry about everything. I don’t want people to suffer this way.
Laura herself is a mum of two but you don’t have to be a parent or guardian to enjoy her little projects and you don’t need money either which makes all this hugely elaborate – especially in current times. She’s making things with nature and basic resources. Playing outside with kids in the mud and the elements – it’s really healing so please take a look as you may too find play to take your mind from many factors to include creative blocks which can come alongside depression or a sense of despair. There’s even beauty tips, for instance soap and mud masks that cost little to make.
Playing in the garden and the local woods is what I loved best about being young and it takes me right back to my own childhood when I used to wander around with a stainless steel mixing bowl collecting leaves, stone and soil and really believing I was making cakes for squirrels and fairies to eat in my nests (I made a lot of dens). You don’t see enough of this in the modern times and the great thing is outdoor play is free. Her book’s named The Joy Journal which is good as it invites a second, a third and on. Laura Brand is lovely. She reminds me so much of a friend of mine Nel Kuk. Nel bought her first child up completely in a forest in Poland. She’s is totally sustainable. It is amazing how we can use nature to bring the best to children. It’s time and resources that are readily made to enjoy.
I live happily with my inner child – it can help me through anything – as all we need is love, play, a roof over our head and goals to accomplish. But ‘out time’ for recreation is best enjoyed with nature. Nature is with us all year round – you don’t rip it out of packets at Christmas. The Joy Journal is good parenting. And good parenting is applicable to our inner child = a book for everyone who wants to play because everyone can afford it. It’s a healing book. Healing for nature as all to often we forget it is there. A lot of my friends are sustainable and I try to be. Living by the sea means we have pebbles, sand and stones. The seagulls – feathers. But I do miss the rawness of grass and soil too. Yet, I am thankful as there are those living in flats without gardens who must be missing nature and I worry for them.
Today I am feeling anxious about my project as I want to start sharing it but I am going to hold back as I feel so protective of the space. It’s our heart and soul so we are waiting for better times as I cannot be in two places at once. Although we do have a guardian taking care I just want to nest. A strong sense of laying down roots. There will be plenty of sky gazing. Please bring clarity. Be kind. There’s so much work to be done to help our planet. Every step counts. Just being at one with nature is good for the soul. Green is the new Black. And you Laura – keep going. I know it must be hard work taking care of your family, putting together craftiness and doing so much in one day but it will all be worth it. Keep your ideas flowing and maybe a seaside inspired Journal next!
Tiff. X
February 2021 – Hello by Tiffany Belle Harper
Some time out has helped me fall in love with âbloggingâ once more. I used to write here for my own comfort and sanity. Sometimes asked âwhatâs my niche?â As here is not about one specific thing. But hey, a blog can be about anything or nothing. Itâs a place thatâs free to store or share. I am 55 and I have never had a fixed routine. I have a âfree spiritâ where some like constancy, we hate it. Of course, I have my anchors in loved ones to include pets. But my life has changed so significantly these last few years It has âin turnâ made me think about what I share online.
I work in the public eye, whereas previously I was entirely nomadic. Embracing a âget up and goâ to a cottage or hut to explore new ânaturalâ territory alone. No fear. I would put up a tent on a hill and think nothing of sleeping in rough and rugged wild territory. I cannot do that as much now. But then I am lucky I ever had the chance to exercise my freedom to the full extent. I am really thankful as this freedom has made me who I am. Sometimes unmanageable and very honest about how I feel and how things affect me.
If you canât tell the truth, then what is the point of having a tongue. It is disappointing our fingers on a keyboard have made so many real people voiceless. We can be any type of thing on the internet, even an animal. Time draining, fat consuming and a portal to addiction. Though, without a doubt, it is good to escape when we can remember itâs not permanent. That we do all have a life of some kind waiting for us to live. And that is not necessarily on social media. It is about balance. A healthy balance that makes us feel complete about our lives each day. Each hour. Each time we feel depressed or alone in our hearts.
There are alternatives and choices. Even during lockdown. To bake, do the gardening, craft, take a walk, to learn a new skill. To look through our junk and see if thereâs something we could make from our rubbish. To upcycle. To be inspired by influencers who have positive activities for which we may engage. There are no heroes – we are all worthy of doing great things, regardless of how life makes us feel. As long as you sleep at night knowing you have made your day work for you, that is all that matters. To sleep well with your conscience and self-gratitude. You are worth it.
I always have blogs in my head, but I think I became distracted more by social media. It made lazy, that coupled with a fear of sharing âthe real meâ publicly. But then life is short, we should never feel so oppressed that we hide away. Thatâs when depression and deep thinking set in. We can put ourselves into a lonely black hole where nobody can find us. And we can only see algorithms and the same faces over and over again.
It is not weak to share how we really feel and who we truly are. It is our birth right. We all have a voice. There is no such thing as a perfect life or âlifestyle and thereâs no such thing as a âperfectâ family or relationship. We are born with these imperfections and then we go through life gathering our own experiences to manifest into something more focused for our own destinations. The greatest gift of all is love. With love comes security and focus to try harder. Be better. To know we have the right support. To allow for mistakes and to be patient. To not be judged. To listen and learn from different viewpoints.
I have been making soap, wax melts. I have a business in Blackpool where I lease a business in hospitality. I have gone on to buy my own place that is âwork in progressâ and I still write and love photography, plus tech. These are my hobbies.
We are in lockdown. I do not disagree with this. I do hate that so many people are losing their livelihoods, I want to help them all. It is a terrible predicament. But we must ride the storm until we can control the death rates and illness that comes with the virus before us. That said there is also an epidemic of mental health issues not to mention ailments and life-threatening diseases not being addressed because of the focus on the pandemic. We need to come together and support where we can. Check out those hiding away. The quiet ones.
Nonetheless, I realise that firstly, before anything else, I need to look after me. We open our doors and heart; we get eaten alive. This can leave us depleted. Love is when we give and take. Less is More. I hate to feel smothered or obliged by those who expect me to dance on eggshells. My personal âheart people’ are on one hand. ENOUGH. The rest is work and focus. It’s tough being in business. Especially in this climate of such great upheaval. But we need to listen to nature. She is telling us she wants our help collectively.
Friendship and love are about accepting our free ways and not trying to disfigure them. I have spent much of my life on a guilt trip I am ‘not‘ doing enough for others, most of whom would do fuck all for me but then we do not give to expect and equally we can only give so much. All that baggage is gone. And I must stay on track! Less is More …
Please read here with me as much as you can and look at my other posts, because I want to talk with you about crafting. I want to rant. I want to show you what I am doing in Blackpool. My blog (since 2014) is sporadic and has no system but Itâs my space and I love to be around people as much as I enjoy my own time. Thanks for dropping by. You can subscribe to my blog and it will be sent directly to your inbox! Please get involved. Also for special offers and latest news on my hotel. I do meet my online friends. I am a very ‘real’ person! But we must wait for life to heal.
So finally, hereâs a couple of cheap meals. I found these pots of mash potato in Heron Foods. I think I paid about 40p. They are just delicious. And then I made a leafy salad with jalapeno peppers, tomatoes, onion, Mexican relish and grapes! It barely touched the sides .. tasted SOOO good â yom! Â Look after yourselves. Money or not, we can eat on the cheap.
Even when I am at work where I can cook anything, I go in favour of hot pots. You can make a huge bowl of whatever you want to last for a couple of days, when kept in the fridge â better still, freeze it or share with friends. I tend to buy frozen bulk vegetables now, also frozen fruit as when I am on my own, I hate to throw excess away, but if you do, veg and fruit make great compost and the birds like fruit too. I will soon share some of my hot pot baking. We are what we eat and baking at home improves our personal carbon footprint. Less packaging a happier planet! Says me the hypocrite with a pot on my PC of potato. But hey … I believe it’s the first pot or packet I have purchased in a long time. (Mash being one of my favourite comfort foods).
Forgive Yourself and Change – Let Magic come Organically
The only other place I have experienced such energy is The Tor at Glastonbury after climbing to the top many moons ago. It is said The Tor will show us who we really are and on my arrival to the peak of the hill after a slow and very muddy ramble, I felt great peace and yet unknown challenge ahead. I shall return. Somerset is where I will grow old to my death. Itâs in place. Enlightened the plight of Dion Fortune. Her book for which I read whilst lodging in Wells.
I donât live in a material mindset as this type of value can take presidency over the reality of purpose. But there is an equilibrium where we need money to get by or at least food and a roof over our head. Yet it is unsure to me why any human would enjoy to hoard money for no intent or purpose other than to be on a rich list?
This pandemic has bought the reality out in most of us. While some âdisappointinglyâ think, âhow can I use this situation to get the best out of this possible for my own recognition,â others take solace towards the less fortunate and reach out to work in teams and infrastructure, or just to offer solid support within community situations. Either way itâs brought more people so much closer together. When we have our basic privileges taken from us, we appreciate the simple things so much more. Such like going out for a good cup of coffee or noticing a childâs smile as we queue for a table.
Itâs always disappointing to notice a small majority take pleasure and advantage in those who struggle and often in such a back handed, egotistical way. Empaths will notice this more. But what we must do during our biggest battles is see this as our opportunity to climb to the next lesson in the higher order. To leave the dead skin behind and not fear change. Variety makes our souls dance. Routine is very different to stability. For a true and clarified pathway only comes with great sacrifice and change.
However we may be forced to contemplate our perception of others, bear in mind nobody has the perfect life or circumstances. If that can ever be possible then the recipient of such treasure is not embarking on the true journey of their soul purpose. We canât run away or hide from our life lessons as it is these lessons that define us as an ever-growing vessel of change and objective.
My life now for which I have chosen is one (for now) of fixed address, where of course I must be more cautious of how much I choose to share, because with (human nature) not everyone wants the best for another. There will be those who have resentment, anger, inner turmoil, who wish to land that baggage on to the lap of another. But when we reflect on such acts of hate, it is the very individuals who send such negativity that need help most. Despite how they often appear on the outside, their resentment towards another is a denial of their own antipathy within themselves.
When things donât go according to plan during our life purpose there is always a reason and that reason lies within our own education of how to avoid this cycle of chaos repeating itself over and over again. We can almost create an âalter egoâ using the web platform where we grow to believe we are the person we claim as our own identity. But really, it is as much important and clearly more so if you so desire to have two personas to do something on the same line of your keyboard identity in the real world too.
I used to be so frustrated with the entire âbullyâ culture. Those who use their time and energy to seek revenge on others in ways that are often difficult for the âvictimâ to defend themselves. A few people I care about have over the years removed themselves from the online platform entirely because of this. Itâs passive aggressive behavioural cycles where often the instigator gains popularity with a self-obsession to appear a role model of all things good using the internet portal – when really they are using that privilege to attack someone else with a love hate wrangle deriving from their own misgivings. And often the victim may appear confident and outgoing despite suffering extreme despair at the hands of jealousy and obsession. This is a form of stalking and harassment and there are laws to protect us but sometimes seeking help can only become a hassle, when really any victim just wants the cycle to stop and disperse. Shaking off a bully is impossible until we realise it just doesnât matter. These tests are sent to hold us back. Really, no person with an unhealthy obsession towards you and your business is ever going to benefit your personal goals and accomplishments. To be great you must be undeterred by the small minded. To remind yourself they will soon move on to someone else. That is until they learn to correct this pattern of self harm within their own existence.
These things are not to be grasped or absorbed and there is never a way to avoid this happening. It is down to each of us to choose whether we want to be in a cycle of bitter revenge or to keep moving forward on our unique individual journey to find a true purpose in order to help the planet in its entirety by actively getting involved – remember small steps build pyramids collectively.
All I can say if you know deep down in your heart you are full of anger, revenge and resentment despite appearing otherwise, you must be deeply unhappy. Perhaps now for all those bullies out there it is time to stop and take heed of who you really are and what you are all about? To look at your past and embrace your future, free of your burden to wish harm to another. To see where your own responsibility dwells in all of the chaos your troubled mind carries and how to heal yourself. To be silent for a while and do not be afraid to ask the universe to reveal your own identity. To recognise your actions of malice and evil intent (often hidden in good gesture) so shamelessly aimed towards those who do you no harm. Now is the time to ask for forgiveness for your unresearched and unnecessary objectives.
I am not in Blackpool because I have to be. I am here because it grips me. The quirkiness of the place, the sunset, the sand and the passion of gail force winds to the West. The determination of the working class from The North who come here for entertainment or contemplation.
Itâs not mine or your responsibility to endure acts of spite. It is only the mindset of the mentally sick to begin that process of cure and that can only come with sincerity. It is overwhelmingly disappointing to know that during this challenge to mankind there are those still sending bad intentions out to others. We should all have just one common goal right now and that is to survive and give the children the education they deserve. One of truth and one of nature. One of survival and progress on a global scale. TBH.
The last lockdown earlier this year I ‘had’ planned on finishing my book, for which is in safe keeping with a friend, but I got little time to myself. If another close down comes soon, it will be total lock down for me and a time to manifest what I have started. I am lucky. I donât need the validation of another. I donât wish for anything I am unable to provide for myself. And when I love, it’s for nothing by return other than trust, support and laughter. We are One.
I have love from those who respect my free spirit and so do you. I have support when I need it most, and so do you. But most of all I have no regrets in terms of trying to make the most of my life. Itâs not so public now. Whereas I enjoyed to blog and share my journey. You realise as you get older not everyone wants the best for another. There are those small few (for all of us at some point in life) that no matter how much you do for the good, they become infuriated further with a desire to see you fall. Thatâs human nature. Sadly, yes it is âhuman natureâ folks and emotional intelligence is very different to education. Actions speak louder and kindness comes with courage not bravado. Itâs how you feel about your inner turmoil when you wake in the night and reflect on your own sense of sincerity. To never feel remorse for being unkind, wicked or insincere in your agenda = time to wake up and find your light and a new perception. The eyes can never conceal cruelty, as the eyes are the window to our soul. Look a person in their eyes before words first spoken.
During these difficult times with the struggling climate, our beautiful planet and a pandemic affecting the lives, wellbeing and livelihood of others, we see those who with a sincere concern for the feelings of others, yet also and most sadly, those who turn this episode in history to an advantage for their own career or purpose. In other words, thriving on the hardship of current trends and a means to seek attention – and thatâs what a lot of our global changes are all about. Shaking off the negative energy deriving from those who appear greater. Life can trick us. Magic is real and the good are quiet more so than ever because they work on such deeper levels of consciousness.
We can honestly put the love circle of our intimate existence on one hand. Our soul purpose is not on Twitter, Facebook or any other platform. These means are simply an introduction or opportunity to release our own press to those who give some time each day to catch up with another form of communication. A freedom so cruelly abused by too much hysteria and faux material. But I believe that more importantly for our vision is to touch base with the universe, the undiscovered potential within our crafts and purpose that will be guided by the infinite light of all that is our true purpose. Time to face our regrets, to let go of the mundane cycle of denial and fear of change. Stability is the will to not fear change. To not be told that change is harmful. Without change we lie dormant. Without change a bully defines freedom of hate speech and the infliction of suffering. Nothing stays the same, we are what we do with ‘good intention’, no less.
There are those using this current pandemic to bring hearts together and (tragically enough) others to drive people apart. Be careful who you trust, where you put your time and how you continue. The most beautiful people can have the most hateful souls. A book is a cover. A book is a title but what you read is the intent and often lack of real life experience – fiction on rewind with no research or depth.
Life should be of greater value than reviews, likes, shares, follows and approval. Itâs not about appearing to be an advocate of anything good. It is more so about your own sense of value and knowledge and the best philosophy of that which often may seem unnoticed – but our own will is the flat dimension for which is an atmosphere of only pure love beyond the negativity and sadly one where too often create so shamelessly for our own selfish purpose. Less is More.
It is not right for any person to give themselves permission to cause unnecessary hardship towards another. We are seeing who we really are. We are being told who we really are. We are being shown our purpose and we have to think about what if the internet did not exist who and what would any of us truly be left with? I personally would love to see this world without the internet forever but let’s ponder how we could cope albeit for a month or two? Believe me, we would all be in a much better place. Humans would be forced to let go of lazy habits and find stories and entertainment on their own doorsteps. We would help friends and neighbours. We would become our own tribes and thrive in reality. We would appreciate our climate, our loved ones, our own sense of purpose much more. Cowards would have no portal. Neighbours would have more of our time. When a child is born we should not wish them an entire life stretch on the internet. There would be little point in being here at all if this were the future. A keyboard, screen and head full of propaganda. How dreadfully misguided is the system so many are hooked into.
Without the internet we could write letters, draw pictures, be exited for the postman. We would spend more time with our significant other and find ways to invigorate new hobbies, past times, romance and opportunity. We would notice nature more and the faux lives of the desperate less. Our lives would be better.
It is about balance, sadly algorithms and paying often huge sums for recognition are not about the true meaning of balance. We ourselves and our inner rhythms are about balance â harmony – contentment. There can be no balance with hashtags, pretending to be someone or something else or adhering to public demand with time better spent broadening our own horizons. And that means change, letting go, being original and rising our vibrations above and beyond the small mindedness that holds us back and that is how the negative works. It wants us to stand still, it wants to hold us back, to keep us in the now â tangled up in worlds that are not our own. We have to be careful we are not using our natural energetical forces to feed the greed and ego of others. How far would you go to make money from promoting the work of someone else you didn’t even like, really? I have observed such betrayal in the so called land of spirituality. I was not surprised.
The best thing that can happen to you today is what you do for yourself. And no act of self improvement is ever too small. Let your addictions become value to your goals by turning your focus towards a sense of only wellbeing to yourself and those who support you. Time best spent doing things of good self intent and ‘love nourishment.’ Let go. Be free. Be wise and know your time being quiet, your time trying to understand hurt and pain is your reason to self validate your crafts and energy for greater things to come. Music. Baking. Crafting. Loving. Saying Thank You. Sharing. Forgiving. Improving. No human is a God. No human is better for money. Avoid the foolish and be kind to yourselves. He who needs an army will die empty handed.
I want to thank my time with the universe today for this insight for my sense of completeness, my oneness and purpose.
For the fools of life, this dimension, forgive their ignorance. I deflect their insanity. We forgive their intent. We forget their existence. We continue. We breath. We learn. We grow. As One. Nature is our Blessing. Blessings. Blessings to ALL who fall and a hand up to those that rise with righteousness and a sacred passion of hope for the future, for all, globally.
Amen.
Tiff. X

