Those who constantly hide within their own ‘inner child’ often ‘placebo’ mindset should not assume they are entitled to bully others due to their own immaturity. Perhaps time to consider ‘growing up’ for at least some part of their wreckless journey. To me, the only way to be the child is to walk amongst them and not hold them as weapons for merit. For we learn more from the young than we can ever be ourselves. TBH©
There’s a lot of people of all age groups, being attacked online. Mostly with indirect ways from bullies and stalkers who use their majority or influence to persecute the vulnerable. To include men and women with mental health issues. This has to become illegal. If those who do the deeds are not prepared to speak face to face with the voiceless and/or vulnerable who have every right to enjoy all aspects of social media – to include YouTube – the bully/bullies should be held accountable in court and face their consequences. Bullying costs livelihood, well being and worst case, bullying cost lives. It is a horrid vicious cycle to be in. Furthermore, no volunteer or care worker should feel unable to participate in group activity. Speaking directly is the best way forward. Only a coward would refuse to do so. If you endorse, encourage or participate in the bullying process, you are just as bad.
It is better to stand on your own two feet than fall into a spiteful mass of which has no purpose. TBH ©
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An activist is a person who fights for justice. An activist is a person who will normally work alone or address a group directly by means of social expression – making clear their protest. I am an activist. More so in my younger years, I campaign for animal rights and women’s rights (in no order).
A bully/stalker – on the other hand – will use methods that are hard to detect. Normally patterns. They watch and absorb their target. Best planning how to ridicule or cause them hardship without making it obvious to others their true intentions. A bully will seldom work alone and may have a tight knit group who embrace the cycle and in turn gain pleasure. Alternatively, a bully gains support by fear using his/her/their closest allies as shields to disguise their motives.
A bully may target their victim due to being different or vulnerable. A bully may also target a victim who seems unbreakably strong and resilient. A bully will use reverse phycology to hide their tracks. This is exceptionally damaging to their victims who may feel helpless due to the depth of the bullying.
An activist will work from a sense of obligation to justice. A bully will work from a sense of worthlessness.
It is true, most bullies are insecure and much of what they do has no root cause other than lack of self-esteem. If you are being bullied. Please remember, you do not deserve this. It is not your fault and things can get better.
A bully will thrive on knowing they are affecting your wellbeing. Alternatively, they will become increasingly frustrated if they feel ignored. By having support around you, a bully will normally retreat for fear of being exposed. Whereas an activist will fight to expose.
Here’s a few pointers to follow to identify the degree of bullying/stalking you may be suffering. Although, not restricted:
Make notes, record the patterns. You will find the bully/stalker is more transparent than you may think and in most cases others have also noticed the pattern that disrupts your wellbeing.
Finally, tell someone. No matter what age you are or what position you are in, don’t be an island. Stand close to those who love you. Life’s too short to carry this on your own.
One of our biggest lessons is to learn about detachment. That most things cannot ‘really’ harm us unless we allow them too. When we ‘let go’ of the cycle of hate towards us it will transmit and move away. It is a case of finding inner harmony and pleasures that derive from new directions. To open new doors.
Less is More. TBH©
Often when we confide about our experiences, it is surprising how others relate. Most of us are victim to bullying at some point in our lives. Please remember, you are worth more. Your life can be wonderful. You are in control of your destiny and the more you focus on the positive, the faster new opportunities will embrace your confidence. Remember. Attention goes where energy flows.
One day at a time. Be gentle with yourself. Stay away from the places you feel most pain. Close the lid on your phone or laptop. Something better will appear, before you know it. Visualise being in a new job with likeminded people or joining an optimistic online forum geared specifically towards your hobbies. Or visiting a natural place of beauty that attracts other visitors. There’s good things happening and they are there for you.
Remember, most bullies are stuck in their ways and would like to hold you there too. Move on and start now. Through darkness, comes light. One day you may go on to be the activist and help others up who are down there where you ‘once’ came from.
Tiffany Belle Harper ©
Can we accept others:
1. For being different
2. Their religious values
3. Having an opinion.
Those who’ve nothing better to do than analyse, judge, criticise and belittle are often the unhappiest. Pity them. For jealousy is a worthless emotion.
Never be afraid to walk away from the negative. There’s always something better for the brave. The less we hate – the more we can love. You are your hero.
Tiffany Belle Harper.
I made this video when I became concerned about the amount of people who use Social Media in a virtual state of silence, due to not feeling able to interact or get involved for fear of retribution.
There are many folk using the internet at varying stages of personal growth and it’s the quieter people that often have the greatest voice.
Find them, include them, show empathy. Avoid narcissism and main stream objectives that will have no use to your own expressive growth or manifestation.
We are living in a world that puts all freedom in to boxes. Walk freely, write blogs, play music, get out with nature. Do not be drawn in to anything that will suppress you.
There’s no such thing as ‘a quiet soul’ in the Galactic Hemisphere. We are ALL leaving our footprints.
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