Tag: loneliness

Sunday – My Seagull – Crafting – Diary

Here’s a few pics taken with my phone of this week. The beach is now chaotically busy which to me is a shame if I am honest. The sea may no longer be blue and they are throwing a lot of rubbish on the sand which ends up in the ocean poisoning the wildlife and contaminating the water. Very sad about it. Keep Britain Tidy. Pick up your crap and dispose of it correctly. Percy is about. He is my gull. I hand reared him. Well actually one of my neighbours informed me Percy is female so hey ho. Have been working on a design venture for the future. It’s taken all my free time. I don’t know how I ever fitted it all in. What with the ongoing sporadic things going on and five pets. I turned myself blue by accident too and became quite unwell with it but I don’t want to talk about that. All I will say is always do some research before drinking anything.

Then my parents have been painting up their furniture and potted over 200 plants in 2 days. They’re both near 90 years of age (mid to late 80’s … I don’t know exactly). My eldest son is juicing and doing his garden so beautifully. And I have had a few lovely pics from friends – in particular Janet Alleyne who is an earth goddess. My neighbour Josie sent the one of the crab – the gulls left it on her doorstep. It was alive and healthy so she put him back on the beach. Nice thought tho from the gulls.

Focus on the positive. Focus on the love and find the good in others. It all comes back to you. Tiff. X

 

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Setting up a Small Biz – Friendship by Tiffany Belle Harper

We are going in literally ten minutes for our daily exercise so this is rushed but if I don’t write it now I won’t bother later. Setting up a small biz for the future in this current ‘climate’ is terrifying on all levels. It is fine for those who are financially stable to give a bit of sarcasm or press for a laugh out of the survivors trying to make something of their futures. But I tell anyone thinking about setting up your small biz, focus on friends/colleagues and family who will support you in spirit and encouragement. A tangible real life biz is going to expand well by word of mouth. When I was at my busiest I didn’t have time to go online but now it is all we have and for those not used to networking it’s daunting. A lot of my guests/customers are not even on the internet. So we are appealing to a different kind of person. But remember a lot are having to resort to the web market for now, anyway but don’t worry I believe things will get better. The web is good for testimonials and recommendations when we become established. Online promotion is good to engage customers or offer discounts/promos etc. But don’t give up your small steps in the now – it can be tough.

The real love around you will be there to hold you up and support your morale. It is also a good way to find out who your real support is and don’t be disappointed if it’s not the people you have given your free time and kudos to – expect nothing and you will never be disappointed. Be strong and keep going. Break away from the negative and stay with those that really do want to see you shine. Get help (as I have) with social media if you struggle with concentration – find out if your fiends have a bit of spare time to give you support. Time will prove your efforts if you stay close to your goals and remember, less is more. Put yourself first. And when you do well the people you love most will benefit. Anyone trying to undermine you now will not be there for you tomorrow or the next day … remember that. We find out during these terribly difficult times what to let go of most. And new doors open – new opportunities – new people who have similar focus or are inspired by yours. It’s all in the real world that lives in the future. Patience is a virtue. Be good to yourselves.

Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Night Talk – To be Awake by Tiffany Belle Harper

Well I know a couple of my girlfriends do the same – we go to bed with good intentions for an early start on tasks then wake up in the night and everything seems so alive. You sort of get insomnia and before you know it you sleep through early morning. It’s a guilty pleasure as I was in a routine of early nights and early starts. Now it’s all sort of organic! It’s given me time to think about stupid things like charcoal toothpaste or my favourite mug. How to make more space in a room with careful decluttering. Then the animals land on the bed – they realise they have attention on tap. I don’t know how they will adjust when things get busy again.

I worry for lonely people as here it is never lonely. I live on an alley way where there are lots of people, animals, birds and plenty of chat from all. But there are those who live in flats or out in the country alone. We should try not let anything negative make us feel alone, threatened or isolated. I believe WhatsApp is good too as we share little videos, recipes and we talk about rubbish. I will chat with anyone, I can banter for England when I feel energised, before returning to slumber. Please don’t feel alone my friends. We are all one together. Stay in your power.

Be thankful for food – there are many who do not know where their next meal is coming from right now. Focus on your objectives for the future. Make new discoveries. Push your creative boundaries and it’s true that perhaps the devil makes work for idle souls. Let’s be free of hate and feel the new energies come through to our unique inner destines. For never have we been so free. It is time for change and new beginnings. Do not fear your own voice or creative expression. Research and explore our meanings – we can share. Love is everything.

We can all be free from stagnant patterns and old regimes when we trust in the future. A new age. The age of Love. There are good and worthwhile charities on our doorsteps. And charity must begin at home.

Tiff. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

‘Women be Crazy’ by Tiffany Belle Harper

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A post for women and girls in particular. Never let anyone say you are weird, mad, crazy or stupid. You are beautiful. Own your body. Own your mind and have fun with your soul. There’s some gorgeous guys out there. I have some amazing male friends both gay – straight and transgender. It doesn’t matter. We are all human and it’s a case of letting go of fear and being ‘you.’ Simply ‘you‘ because you are so special and valuable. Men and women need one another. Demand Respect – Be a Goddess. Make nice friends that want the best for you and your feelings.

Tiffany. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper

Please Do Not Suffer in Silence. Sharing is your Friend

It doesn’t matter how I feel about a person personally – it would not make any difference at all to learn they felt unhappy at home. I would fight for anyone who may feel detached from reality due to abuse and a sense of self doubt because of loving a person you do not necessarily like. I am stubborn. I have been in bad relationships and I walk away. But for others, it’s not so easy if you feel a sense of helplessness.

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A few years ago – I  had an abusive relationship, where I was assaulted and I am not playing victim here. But by sharing our experiences we can reach out to others. So if anyone ever wants to speak with me – do get in touch. I would not wish hardship on anyone. There is a better world out there for all of you who may feel trapped with your circumstances –  sometimes feeling emotionally attached to a person may be fear related. Perhaps you feel so low in yourself that it seems impossible to survive without your abuser to pick you up and drop you down. Where you rely on their highs to get through their lows. But it doesn’t have to be like this for you. Life is short and you deserve abundance.

I know real love exists for all of us when we are brave enough to let go of that which controls us. We really do not have to fear anything. And I would hate to think any person (women and girls in particular) feel their lives are suffering because of oppression at home. I don’t want anyone out there to believe they do not have anyone to speak with. Because I care and I will make time for you. I promise. So don’t be a stranger.

An abuser is a weak person – they will not want you to participate in activities away from them. They may make you feel they depend on you and vice versa. But this is not true. Join groups and get involved with activities away from your abuser/controller. Find ways to grow as an individual and new doors do open. They really do and one day you will look back and wonder why you wasted all those years feeling like half the person you could be. Love is the Answer and abuse is not love. Be happy! It’s free too.

Tiffany. X

by Tiffany Belle Harper